I'm pretty, cute, smart, intelligent, easy to get along with and have no problems meeting guys. But it seems like all they want from me is sex. Am I doing something wrong? Giving the wrong signal?
2006-07-22 08:26:39 · 23 answers · asked by peta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO, I do not "give it up" easily.
2006-07-22 08:40:31 · update #1
Perhaps the problem is that you are friendly with many guys, and you are not attached to any one of them.
And perhaps to some guys this makes you look promiscuous.
People often tend to see others in terms of their own needs. And horny guys who see an attractive unattached woman being friendly with them tend to interpret it as a sexual come-on from her.
The meaning guys see in your behavior comes from the situation in which you are sending your friendly signals.
If and when guys find out that you have a steady boyfriend and you are not looking for any other serious relationship, then they will begin to interpret your friendly behavior in a completly different way.
2006-07-22 08:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You're just hanging out with shallow people and you should expect that. If you change your social circle, like, not hang out in the shallow end, you will find, there are tons of guys out here who, yes, love to have sex, but no, it's not all we're after. You are probably hanging with people that it is the main focus of their lives just now and you are beyond it already. Just find a place where the main thing isn't "hanging," but rather something other. Like, take an art class, or, do some volunteer work. When the job is more important then you, and you all have a mutual goal, (other then sex) you get to be a part of something larger, and, the whole you gets to shine through! Good Luck! :)
2006-07-22 15:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by fromdheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give it up easily, some men can sense that like a lighthouse calling them. I would say don't give it away so readily, and maybe it won't get around that your a sure thing. Now forgive me if I sound rude, but if all they want is sex, then make them suffer and then say no. Do not give away sex like a party favor. Maybe change your outlook on guys, we are not all out to get into your pants...just the ones that think your easy. Peace.
2006-07-22 15:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one head, guys have two...the BIG one, and the little one...unfortunately, sometimes the little head does the thinking for both, which is why the eyes are focused on your boobs(or lower). If you've got a nice figure(which it sounds like you do) the only 'signal' you need to send is by being in the same room with a horny guy. You could try wearing different clothes, like maybe a hefty bag or a big floppy sweater, but sweaters can be kind of hot, too......
2006-07-22 15:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the first thing a guy is going to want from a pretty girl. If she puts it out there first thing, then he's gotten what he wanted and he moves on. If she holds back a bit, gives him time to get to know the smart/intelligent/easy to get along with parts of her, then certain guys will want more than just sex from her---they'll want the whole package.
Bottom line, sweetie, if you want a guy to want the whole package and not just sex, don't make sex the first/last thing he gets from you. Make him want that whole package.
2006-07-22 15:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's always a possibility. Showing too much skin seem to advertise availability for sex.
My mom used to say, always treat a lady like a lady until she proves she isn't one.
Perhaps you need to check up on your mode of dress, your makeup (too much is a problem), your language (avoid slang and profanity), where you hang out makes a difference in how people see you.
The other problem is what guys you may be choosing. Just like a lady shows herself to be a class act, so should a guy. Avoid the ones that dress improperly (pants to the floor, hats turned to the side, etc), act the jock or the BMOC (big man on campus) or the guy that is "too hot to touch". Avoid the guy that does not treat women with respect, has language that is crude or insensitive to show off, or who likes to show off excessively (his cars, his jewelry, his actions). Date guys who show themselves to have class and are gentlemen.
Make yourself a commitment to watch who you date and to inform them of your standards (moral or ethical) as you start dating them so there are no questions. The guys who don't like them or won't observe them should be history quickly (and you should be creating the history).
2006-07-22 15:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you act? Are you a huge flirt? How do you dress? Do you show a lot of skin? If the answer is "yes." Be more conscious of how you act and dress... don't change who you are but be more respectful of yourself and guys will respect you more.
OR, could be all the guys you hang out with are evil and perverted and you should start looking for guys in a different place.
2006-07-22 15:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by encore_theater_rox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And if you are giving it out then that is all they will ever think of regarding you. You want respect and love from them but you don't act like a woman who respects herself. You have to decide whether you want to be the booty call chickie or be taken seriously. Can't have it both ways.
2006-07-22 15:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be. but dont give it to them. soon they will realize there is more to you then a great body. but its guys we are talking about, and guys have a sexual thought every 6 seconds, so what else are most of them going to want? you will find a guy that wants you for more though.
2006-07-22 15:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think your giving the wrong signal or saying the wrong things
2006-07-22 15:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by ToKool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋