After separating from my Husband in March, I have just sold my car (Which was a shared asset). So I can no longer take or collect my 3 year old daughter to her fathers at the weekend. I Have told him it's his responsibility now as I don't have a car. He seems to think CSA Will give him a discount now because of travel expences (He doesn't even live 2 miles away from me). I was just wondering, is he talking out his **** OR is this true?
2006-07-22 08:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by snow.-.angel 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I left the marriage due to domestic violence and haven't claimed a penny from him. Nor have I had any assets from the marital home. The car does have HP outstanding but will be cleared with the money from the sale of the car.
Sorry, I had to ask opinions from you guys and gals because if I contacted CSA about everything he seems to think he can and can't do, they'd think i was nuts.
2006-07-22 08:36:07 · update #1
Thanks Liquid ice, but i'm off blokes for a while because of the way he treated me. You made me laugh though. :-)
Maybe i should try to be as petty as my ex by trying to claim back all the petrol I put in the car in order to take his daughter to him!?!?! BUT I'm not like that, TBH, I'm glad he's out of my life now!
2006-07-22 08:49:53 · update #2
I don't believe he would intentionally hurt my daughter as the violence was always directed at me. Luckly no where near as bad as what you've been through Mizangeleyes! He's always been selfish with money and assets, his attitude was always he's earnt it, its his, not ours. If he bought it, it remained 'his'. This is why I left with nothing. Despite the fact marriage is suppost to be about sharing. If I hadn't got the CSA involved, he wouldn't be paying me a penny!
All your answers are great! Thanks people!
2006-07-22 10:28:07 · update #3
Ok, talking from experience, although it's up to him whether he collects ur child or not - being 2 miles away isn't going to make any difference to CSA!! If he's arguing over a 2 mile trip ONCE A WEEK then he's not worth it. He's got legs? Besides, I'm sure they have a bus service!
I'm a bloke who got recently divorced this year too, I make the effort to drive 20 miles to see my son. If there was no car I'd get a taxi or bus, because? I LOVE HIM. I'd rather see my son than buy a pint of lager anythime!
You're best out... people like him give us decent blokes a bad name.
P.S. you free for a drink next weekend ;o)
2006-07-22 08:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by liquid_ice_71 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have claimed csa from my husband, I left home due to domestic violence over a year ago and did not claim straight away.
The CSA website has lots of answers but as far as I know the only way he gets discount is to share the care.
The amount he pays is a percentage of his wage
Travel expense is not part of the deal at all
the money you claim is to support his children, he cannot take their money for his travel expenses.
The best way to stop him cutting you short is to ask the csa to collect the money for you, I had to do that because i knew my ex would make excuses ..claiming poverty some weeks etc
Good luck !!
2006-07-23 08:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by snoopyfanno1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur absolutely right. he's just being petty and obviously doesn't care much about the child if he's trying 2 scrape pennies back from them!
i left a relationship (not marriage) due 2 very bad domestic violence. i know it's all very bad but my bloke tried 2 run me over with my car among a variety of other things. he even brought our baby son into our arguements almost hurting him, all i get in child support from him now is £2.50 a wk because he's on job seekers allowance. he doesn't see our son because he doesn't really care about him and never has done and because social services have told me not 2 let him near me or my son as he poses a threat and i am 2 call the police if he comes round.
i'm just wondering since u left as a result of donestic violence was ur child involved at all and do u have any reason 2 think he'd harm them? if u do please contact social services. i'm glad i did. my son was being affected in ways i didn't realise until he was out of our lives.
2006-07-22 10:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is talking out of his bottom. Can't he walk to collect her or get a bus like the rest of us? 2 miles is nothing. I walk it every day (a round trip to school and back twice over). Don't let him fool you hon and double check with the CSA. Why do men think us girls are stupid?!! Good luck and don't let him get away with a penny!
2006-07-22 08:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you have shared the funds 50/50 with your estranged husband (If the car has no outstanding finance) then it will make no difference to any claim against him, as his contribution is to support his child, not you.
If the car has outstanding finance then that must first be settled before any funds are shared 50/50.
2006-07-22 08:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your split is that recent you will most likely come under the new rules.
No it wont make a difference.
(The csa won't pay attention to minor changes in anyones circumstances.)
2006-07-22 08:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you contacted CSA about this? That would be a good place to ask first.
2006-07-22 08:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This won't make a blind bit of difference to your assessment. They have a new way of working out how much he pays you and it's a simple calculation... him collecting her will not affect it. It sounds like he is just being mean for the heck of it if I am honest.
2006-07-22 08:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by dashabout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u been thru alot go on the csa website it is helpfull tells you what they deduct for
2006-07-23 10:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋