what should i do to make my husband feel loved?

Question

we both love deeply eachother..

i am asking about how to make him happy by doing small things..giving a surprise..like that...i need new more ideas..

he is very loving n caring..n i wanna make him feel that he means a lot 2 me..

Answer 1

I feel loved when I get a kiss both before I leave for work and when I come home. A nice shoulder rub feels good, too. Listening to me is important... do I have your attention or are you drifting away? Making me my favorite breakfast on Sunday is really nice.

Answer 2

every once in a while before I leave for the day I put post it notes saying loving things all over the house

I once just took several pieces of 8 1/2 x11 paper and made I Love you forever (each word on a different sheet) and put the message on the carpet so he could see it when he walked in the door

I wrote notes everyday and put them in his lunch so he had a message from me to read at noon -- sometimes I just thank him for something thoughtful he did... or remembered.. men "do things" more than they say things

He loves it when I have a bath ready and dinner cooking when he comes home from fishing... I help unload the boat and the bath is waiting for him

I taught him all about epsom salts in a bath and Aveno oatmeal treatment -- he's in the sun much of the day and his skin drys out -- men don't always know the benefits of a good soak in the tub. I took the CD player in there and left it playing with his favorite CD

Take a sharpie (a red one of course) and draw hearts on a pair of his underwear & write things like "I love you" I'm sure you have a good imagination on this one

I watch fishing with him (I swear every bass reeled up looks the same... ) He loves that I am there with him. I might even be reading a book too... but that still is ok as long as I am there.

LISTEN to him... men are very plain in what they want... pay attention and do those things.

I talked about his childhood.. found out things he never had and what he did without... and if it was something he'd still want... I try to find it..

My husband had an old lamp of his grandmothers that no one had ever repaired. I took it in and had it rewired and bought a shade for it. Now it sits in our living room. THAT meant alot to him.

I took his family photos he had and put them in an acid free album.

Cherish who he is, where he came from and the important things in life.

Answer 3

Just tell him!!!!!! All the time, everyday. How do you feel about him? Does your heart skip a beat when you look at him? Look at him, watch him, watch the way his mouth moves when he speaks. His hands, do you feel safe when he holds you? Take his hand in yours, look him in the eye, tell him you love the way his hands hold yours. Love notes in his lunch, do you pack him a lunch? Talk to him ask him, "is there anything you need from me that you don't have?" "Is there anything I can do for you today to make your day easier?" Call him after he goes to work, "Honey, did I tell you I love you before you left?" Always think the best of him, don't talk about personal stuff with friends, leave things between you and him. You go Girl!!!!! You will do fantastic!!

Answer 4

Nothing like spontaneous acts of kindness and love to show how you feel. When he's not expecting it, give him a kiss, a back rub, a hug, or just tell him how lucky you feel to have him. Also, giving him something he's always wanted for a surprize works too. You don't have to spend a fortune. Just something small that he thinks is silly to buy for himself but you know he'd like it alot.

Answer 5

Don't smother him . buy him flowers , yes HIM, I did that for my husband and he was very appreciative . Make him dinner , (his favorite ) , Draw him a bath with , bubbles , candles , and champagne . (if you want and the tub is big enough ,join him) .Also don't smother him , by wanting to know where he's at every single minute , what he's doing , and who's he with . That's a sure fire way of getting him to think that you're too clingy . Good Luck

Answer 6

It's the little things that matter most. I read something once where a widowed man didn't realize until a few weeks after his wife had passed that all the years they were married he had a "magic sock drawer." He never, ever thought about socks, because he never had to. It was always full and they were clean and sorted. After she was gone, eventually the drawer ran empty and he wept because he had never said thank you for this. He took it for granted. It was, though, one of those invisible things that made him feel loved. When I read this, I wept, and I ran to my husband to thank him for my "magic gas tank." It's always taken care of, for 21 years, and I never have to even think of it. There are many "magic" things between us like this in our marriage, and there will be in yours, too. Remember to provide the magic, and try to remember to thank your partner for creating magic for you as well.

Answer 7

Most guys are just really guys, they don't need the constant reassurance that we gals seem to. It sounds like you let him know you love him; is there anything that makes you feel he doesn't feel loved? If not, don't worry about it, and just do things that come naturally.

Answer 8

Well not trying to be a pervert here but my husband would tell you to go down on him when he comes home from work or unexpectedly or something along those lines and give him the "royal treatment"...

Answer 9

Just one thing....if you over do this, he will feel smothered.
Put a note in his lunch.. like "thinking of you"

Ocassionally kiss him on the neck when you walk by him.

Sometimes eye contact and really listening is a gift to a man.

Thank him for working so hard.

compliment him on how he does things.

Tell him that he is sooo handsome.

If you take time to take good care of yourself, you can take good care of him.

Answer 10

I once had a singer surprise my boyfriend and come and sing to him.It was different, unique, and a good idea.Find a song to express your feelings. Or do something you don't do all of the time but you know he likes it or wants it.