Ok I went out last night with my boyfriend and his best friend. Everytime my bf went to the bathroom his friend was all over me. At the end of the night we were all pretty trashed, so we went back to my bf's friends house. Well my boyfriend was yet again using the bathroom, this guy made a move on me. We ended up kissing . He told me not to tell his friend, but I am conflicted. HELP!!
They've been best friends for over 8 years.
2006-07-22 08:11:25 · 20 answers · asked by Punky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him - he hell as like is not much of a friend
AND... If his mate says you are lying and your BF believes him then it shows what he thinks of you...
You should not have to put up with a creep like that hanging around you and shouldnt have secrets like that from your BF. It could all backfire... If he found out he would be asking why u said nothing... and how would you feel if the roles were reversed and it was him with YOUR friend ?
Good luck hun & Hugz !
2006-07-22 08:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The guy may have been all over you. But what part did you play in it? Since you state you kissed him it leads me to believe that you must have been a player in it too. Don't blame it on being trashed or the other guy or even your bf taking a leak. If you can handle the drinking you can handle the consequences. You can pick the choice you make to drink ,you don't however get to pick the consequences, unfortunately. It is sad that this relationship between the boys could end over this. But honestly, wouldn't you want and deserve to know the integrity of your best friend, and also your gf. Hope for you all, hearts aren't too broken and much of it can be mended. Remember, Kharma. Someday you will endure what you have caused someone else to also. But it will come when you least expect it too, and with someone you don't want it too. If you keep that in mind perhaps next time you will choose differently. Good Luck.
2006-07-22 15:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirlup64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it takes two to tango. You 'two' kissed. Here's an option. Who do you want? If its your bf tell his 'best friend' to back off. If its his 'best friend' break up with your boy friend and chill, give it time and let the 'clouds clear' before making a decision. You might find you don't want either of them, and might find someone else. Or maybe your bf is testing how trustworthy both of you are? Or maybe he's setting up his 'best fiend' with you. You make choices in your best interest. You could sit both of them down and talk about it, or write a letter to your boy friend letting him know what's gone on and send a photocopy to his best friend! Their reaction to these circumstances would tell you plenty. There are many options.
2006-07-22 15:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Gengis Can 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ended up kissing?? Did you kiss back or did he force himself on you?? If you did not kiss back. Yes tell him! If my best friend was hitting on my girlfriend I would want to know, and know fast. But if you kissed back then that's a bigger issue. He'd be mad at the both of you. It's a no win situation to be honest. But as it goes...he will eventually find out anyway. The longer you wait to tell him the more angrier he will become. It's always better to be honest, just tell him, then let him deal with his own feelings about the situation.
2006-07-22 15:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Logan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. Just realize that your boyfriend is going to be disappointed in you also because you let the situation happen, and its not like the friend held you down and kissed you. It sounds like you didn't try very hard to avoid the drama.
2006-07-22 15:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Antoine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely tell him.... you might not like what he has to say but it will be a relief to you to know that u told the truth....Dont let his friend come between u cuz if u hide it from him it will only make things worse in the long run
2006-07-22 15:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by stefini_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, switch the situation around. If your bf for 8 years started messing around with your man when you weren't around, would you want to know? Tell him! If he finds out some other way he is going to get mad at you for not telling him!
2006-07-22 15:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kristy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you should be honest with your boyfriend to let him know what is going on. At the same time, you have to know who you really love. You shouldn't be trashing around with another guy behind your bf's back.
2006-07-22 15:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mint_Always 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him right away before he finds out from someone else. If he truly cares for you he'll understand and be able to forget about it. Maybe he should rethink his friends too!
2006-07-22 15:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its best to tell him you never know it might be something the two, meaning your boyfriend and his friend came up with to see if you are faithful to your boyfriend it could be a trap. men always stick together.
2006-07-22 15:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mignon26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋