help my daughter is winging all the time?

Question

she can even ask a simple question without whinging and she has started with a stutter so you can imagine how frustration it is for us both,She will whinge when im playing with her, the minute she opens her eyes, everyone says how happy she looks but its in side the house or garden she starts, i am paranoid its me im the cause of her whinging, im a bad mum to my 3 yr old daughter and im at the end of my tether. will she grow out of the stuttering what should i do help me

Answer 1

I have no clue what "winging" or "whinging" is...unless you're talking about whining--which is what children do when they want something and talk in a higher pitched voice that can grate on the parent's nerves very quickly.

If she's stuttering, she needs some speech therapy. Contact your local school district to have her evaluated, or a private speech therapist (called a Speech/Language Pathologist, or SLP) to help her.

Answer 2

Hi my daughter used to do this with me too and she's the same age as yours. You're not a bad mother, kids can make us feel like we are sometimes.Whenever my daughter whinges i just tell I'm not gonna talk to her until she stops then i walk out the room, at first she'll get worse until she learns that she's not going to get what she wants by whinging. You might feel like killing her during the process but then when she's calmed down you'll see her for the beautiful little princess that she is. Plus when she does get calmer her stutter could disappear slightly as she won't need to whinge at you, she''ll think about what she's gonna say before she says it, i hope this is some help.

Dominique

Answer 3

I used to have a stutter when I was little because I was an incredibly shy child so this was a nervous reaction. Something may have happened at home which scared her, simple things like something being dropped making a loud noise.
She will grow out of her stuttering but she needs your support, if you make an issue out of it it'll only make it worse. The whinging may be a result of being uncomfortable about her stutter. Be relaxed about it, it sounds like you want a perfect child, which never happens. If you don't put so pressure on her (even if its just you always correcting her this can put a huge strain on a child) she'll be happier then quicker to grow out of any bad habits.

Answer 4

I know how hard it is for you.....i am a mother of 3 daughters, and they all went through that stage. The best thing i find when they do this is to try and ignore them, as the more you pay attention to the behaviour, the more they will do it. If she gets no responce from you, the whinging will stop....but you must reward her when she gives you good behaviour, and give her praise for being sensible. I am sure that you will see a very big change when she starts school, as children tend to mimic other children to a certain extent, and if she sees/hears others acting in a different way, she will act accordingly.....having said this be carefull she doesnt pick up other negative behaviour from her peers when she goes to school.....if she does, you will have to deal with this in the same way as i described above.
Rest assured, you will see a change and very soon.....hope this helps, and good luck.

Answer 5

If you are concerned, you are not a bad mother. she is at a particularly wingey age. i went through it with my daughter, but was very firm with her, telling her that the more she winged, the longer it was going to take for her to get what she wanted, that I would eventually ignore her and that if she wanted to talk to me properly, I would listen. Not that that meant giving in to her. If you stick to it, she will learn pretty fast. But you cannot give in, even once. Believe me, kids know how to push boundaries and buttons, and they do. All a three year old girl knows is that up until now, the world has revolved all around her, particularly when it comes to mommy. Then she starts associating with other children, some of whom winge, and get what they want, so she copies her peers, and find that even when it doesn't work, she gets some sort of response from mummy, therefore telling her that she is still the centre of the world and has power. The kindes thing you can do for her is explain why you will not listen to wingeing, then don't listen. Carry on like she isnt there, except maybe to tell her that if she changes her tone and talks properly, you will listen. If she starts to ask things normally then returns to wingeing when she has your attention, repeat the process all over again. If she throws a tantrum at you, gently as possible, lead her to a "haughty" step or chair or somewhere, her bedroom or bathroom, explain why she is being put there, and make her stay there for three minutes (i.e, as many minutes as she is in years). If her behaviour hasn't changed when you go back to get her, reapeat again. You will have to stick to this, and when talking to her always try and get down on her level and talk in a clear firm voice, but if you stick to it, she will begin to associate wingeing with not getting any attention at all, as oppposed to some, albeit negative. when she asks for something normally the first few times, tell her how nicely she asked and give her a big cuddle.

The stutter could be many things, it could be something worth checking with the doctor, but if she previously spoke without it, then chances are it is something she has picked up and is using for maximum attention. Perhaps she knows a child who stutters, and notices that everyone stops to patiently listen to him, even if he winges, because he has a stutter and people are encouraging him to talk. If you are fairly certain she has "grown" this stutter, and that it isn't present the rest of the time, then point blank refuse to listen to her until she speaks normally. Should work. Good luck.

Answer 6

Kids whine, there's nothing you can do about it, she'll grow out of it. As for the stuttering, she's 3 years old, her mind is moving faster than her lips can move. Remember that putting sentences together to verbally communicate her wants and feelings is still rather new to her and she's just having a problem finding the right words to use. Tell her to slow down and concentrate, to think of want she wants to say, take a deep breath and speak slower. If the stuttering continues or gets worse, ask your doctor to recommend a speach therapist.

Answer 7

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Stuttering can be very serious and dibilitating but usually only affects boys. It maybe that she is putting it on to force you to pay her more attention.
Ignore the whinging and jut treat her requests normally with a simple ¨don´t whinge dear¨. no extra attention for whinging and no extra attention for stuttering.

Mother&Toddler group will help you.
If stuttering continues then away to the doctors with her for a referal to a speech therapist.

Answer 8

You are not a bad mother. Children whine a lot at her age and all
you can do is let her know that whining won't get her what she
wants. As for the stuttering, there are books on this that may help
her. All else fails, try taking her to a child psychologist.

Answer 9

Well Prince Albert (King George VI) developed a stammer early on due to negelect from his nanny, but he still went on to do great things in his life. Some children will outgrow it some will not, but as it is plainly evident, even those with a stammer can go on to achieve greatness.

But if this is your only child I can't imagine you neglecting her. Sometimes children are just fussy. Sometimes they only show such undesirable behaviour around their parents. I'm sure you've heard of children that are very well behaved in public but are tyrants at home. I think it's a matter of comfort and social expectations. Either way, just love your child, show her that you love her, hold her, play with her.

Answer 10

of course she'll grow out of it, you need to patient though
think of the reasons that make he whinge, think of her as a smart girl because am sure she's so smart
try to get her invovled in helping you in simple stuff around the house, make her feel that she can do something to help
good luck