Single dilemma...?

Question

Been in some terrible relationships where I've been cheated on twice. In both cases they've said sorry and wanted to get back, but had to say no because I've always thought that thats the beginning of the end. I find things like that are too difficult to forget. I think I'm decent looking, exercise regularly, always been faithful, loyal, and always given more than what I've ever received.
Now, I've decided to join a dating site, rather than taking a 50:50 chance in a nightclub and knowing nothing about them.
There is one girl who keeps emailing me who isn't anything to look at, but after meeting her (as you do) it appears that she has a heart of gold, a few things in common, and know she would do anything for me. Something I'm not used to. Appearance was the biggest thing for me (which I was probably my downfall). Doesn't everyone look the same when ur OAP's?
Do you think that I should give it a go? Has anyone (male or female) been in a similar scenario and it's worked ok?

Message to Lotusrain:

Serious Answers only.. sure you've been tempted (like the rest of the human race) to go with the better looking bloke rather than the one that isn't!!!

Answer 1

Personality is V important. Good looks don't last. You can't base a relationship on the way a person looks. She could be what you've been lacking relationship wise. I think you should deffinately give her chance. I think the most important thing you need from your relationship is trust, you need to feel secure with this girl and you don't want to be with someone who you have doubts about their faithfulness.
She seems keen on you. Don't rush things if you want to get to know her properly! I just wish there were more blokes out there like you. Good luck, I hope things work out for you!

I'd rather date a guy who treats me like a princess than a good looking guy who treats me like dirt!!!

Answer 2

Being faithful, loyal and all those **** is also me, and ive been in the same scenario before. See all i do now is to be very careful of who i give my heart to. And to tell you the fact, going out more might help in a way cos no girl or guy would come and meet one in the house. If you think you like her then you can give her a try but if your heart refuses, dont go following your head.
What i have at the back of my own mind is that no matter how bad and number of times my heart has been broken i wont rush into anything and eventually run out rather i would wait for the right person taht i know will come my way pretty soon.At least one day you would get married so why will i want to torture myself by giving my heart to someone who isnt worth it.

Answer 3

I used to just go out with guys for looks and it was always a disaster. Now, if someone stimulates my mind and makes me laugh I find that much more attractive. Depends what you want from life.... if you want real proper love and respect you'll have to look deeper than looks.But then again, don't just settle for second best, if you feel like there is no magic or spark then it won't work out in the end. I have friends who have started going out with people they weren't totally in to and it has turned into good strong love. Everyone is different though, if you are not feeling it after 3 or 4 dates then its probably not going to happen. Go with your gut feeling, it is usually the right thing.

Answer 4

I think it is a great way to get to know someone really well.You cannot base a relationship on physical appearence alone.What if you went out with Miss.World,fell in love ,got married and she then got disfigured somehow,would you leave her;she is the same person.I think the important thing to find is chemistry and this not just created by looks alone !

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You sound like Shallow Hal! Keep going out with the good looking bitches, you deserve it. Then nice girl deserves better then you. Maybe she will find someone else with a real sense of values, a MAN! and hook up with him.

Answer 7

well,lol,, pick an average looking person then you wont have other men stealing them away,, looks arent everything. (plus not being bigheaded im quite nice looking) but had a few exes cheat on me,,,but life stil goes on, and good riddance theyre loss..id prefer someone average with a lovely personality any day...

Answer 8

hi,

ever heard of courting? it's old fashioned and i courted a girl once upon a time. these days we'd describe it as taking things slowly. you know, films, meals, the usual date type stuff but no jumping into bed.

you'll soon know where you stand.

did it work out for me? i'd like to think so!!!!

Answer 9

If you're holding out for Uma Thurman etc., it's probably not gonna happen....find out more about this one, she might be a keeper...

Answer 10

Alway say no to cheater "once a cheater always a cheater". And beauty fades always. you know what i mean.....