Seems that manners are not being used anymore, someone "used" to say "thank you" when you did something for them, even just opening a door, or "your welcome" to acknowledge their thank you.
2006-07-22 08:05:47 · 44 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The words"Thank you" and "You're welcome" are words that show personal involvement with a situation.Thank you shows appreciation for help givin.It also infers that a person needed help.
Your welcome shows a willingness to give of ones self to helping someone.
It seems as if we have gone from "thank you" and "your welcome" to "thanks and "no problem" or for those who are multi-lingual"no problemo"
Anyway the personal involvement is gone.
I believe American English is turning into an impersonal language.
It's too bad .Once we loose the ability to express involvement.such as "I love you" I detest what's going on." and other expressions of personal involvement, we become a vanilla society.And worse we become suspicious of those who are expressing themselves.
This is the truth:my parents taught me the proper way to conduct myself in social situations.
I was taught if you are escorting a woman that woman receives your attention.
I was walking with a woman I really liked.(She had potential!)
After about an hour of walking around the woman turned to me and with all the seriousness she could muster asked me"Are you gay?"
Now,one of the few things I have been able to hold on to in the great struggle that is my life is my manhood.So I asked why she would ask such a question.And she replied,without cracking a smile"Because all the time we've been walking together you haven't looked at one woman!"
This is a whole different time we are living in.And much of the good things that were taught are being disregarded for a more self gratifying way.
Ti's sad in many ways.
Thank you for asking such a question.I've actually been thinking about these things!
2006-07-22 08:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by robert2011@sbcglobal.net 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Seems very much like it mose of the time, but I on the contrary always make sure to smile and say "thank you", "your welcome", "have a nice day", etc. I don't know where you live, but maybe it's because you're in the city or something. I happen to be in a tiny village where everyone knows each other and thus is very easily friendly to each other. Anyway, I think we can also consider the fact that people are getting more and more lazy and ungrateful. Sad, but true. Just hope that people will evolve more and stay the way you are- it's best! :)
2006-07-22 08:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, they are very much with us. The issues is respect! I learned along time ago that if there is no respect for the mother, there will not be any respect for any one else, not even for the self.
Notice some of the answers that were given to your question.
They seriously call into question the character of the person and if they are likely to be the type that you would hire, if that were the situation, or bring home to meet your family if that was the situation.
Remember:
The Human heart is like a huge door, that opens with ease,
To very very little keys
and of them all, two are these;
I thank you, and, If you Please!
Tales from my grandma!
2006-07-22 10:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do believe you are right. The next generation thinks that manners are no longer important. Thank you for asking and agreeing with what I have been saying for quite some time.
2006-07-22 08:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that they have along with excuse me and please. People are not teaching their children manners or at least not enforcing it. I'm only 29, and I promise you my mother and father made sure I learned how to mind my manners. But, it does upset me to go to the store and try to say excuse me and people act as if you are speaking a foreign language. I try not to be rude but sometimes..... I do say as I pass them...."I know I was using MY manners." You can imagine the looks I've received.
2006-07-22 08:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Montana and everyone, including me says thank you and your welcome. I have doors opened for me all of the time and I hold doors open for other people. Manners are still out there. Don't lose hope yet.
2006-07-22 08:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Angela B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They exist but it's just a matter of using them yourself. It's not automatic anymore where I live, but I find when I use them it prompts people to do the same. Don't expect much though since it isn't an ingrained thing in the common person (depending on where you are) nowadays.
Just be happy there's at least two people left who still believes in being polite on a regular basis.
and thanks for the easy 2pts.
2006-07-22 08:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me,but I beg to differ. I still use ,"thank you,your welcome,and above all,please". These words are very important in everyday life. If some stranger doesn't use them when you are around,then yell it out and bring it to their attention and show them the error of their ways. There's no excuse for bad manners.
Thank you
2006-07-22 08:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. Where i live in NC, People still open the doors for people and say thank you and your welcome. People help people who drop something. And just yesterday someone told me to watch out so i didn't step in a puddle. He could have let me step in it but he didn't.
Not every where is manner less
2006-07-22 08:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
manners are a thing of the past, evidently some do good er on a crusade has decided to do away with them, just like saying the pledge of allegiance, being able to discipline your child, and deciding if you want to wear your seat belt or not
2006-07-22 08:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by purgatory_princess2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋