we have been together for a couple of weeks.we have not had sex.we just fooled around
2006-07-22 08:04:56 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are already involved. Maybe you have to change your question wether to continue or not. Well, only you can answer the question. What I can advise is, if you really like each other, consider the consequences in the future. You might enjoy the relationship now, but later getting a divorce too. Any children, family members or friends affected. Will you and your career be likewise affected? If he leave you in future, can you still lean back to your family and friends? A lot, you have to consider, you know.
2006-07-22 08:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by friendofyours 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well I am going to give you the best advise that I can. I am going to give you personal information about my brother. My brother was married and we found out that he had a woman on the side. I confronted the woman because she was a friend of mine. She told me how much she loved him and that he told her he was divorcing his wife. The other woman ended up pregnant and still no divorce. She had the baby and still no divorce. Soon after her baby turned six months old my brother told her that he didnt believe that her baby was his and told her to leave him alone. She got a test to prove that the baby was his and the whole time this is happening he refuses to acknowledge that he is having an affair. He takes his wife on a cruise and buys her a new wedding ring. Now the woman and my niece are no longer in his life. Granted he quietly pays child support but has forbidden my family to become involved with the other woman and our niece. I am still her friend and feel so blessed that I know my niece. If the man that your with is telling you that his marriage is over and that he is getting a divorce you need to put your chin up and tell him that until he is divorced stop treating you like you are stupid. That is unless you just want to be the other woman and couldnt care less that he is a married man. Personally I think that he would carry way too much baggage and that you should find someone who isnt already spoken for.
2006-07-22 08:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not.
Why not wait until he is through with any prior entanglements? You really don't want to be involved in a messy situation, and I question why he would not want to put a "period" on one relationship before starting another. Not a lot of character in that.
There's always a possibility that they will reconcile if it's early in their divorce proceedings. Especially if they have kids, I'd stay far, far away until the legal proceedings are final. Tell him to call you then, when the divorce is final, but you have too much self-respect to get involved with him when he's not completely finished with the old situation.
2006-07-22 08:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, why do you want a married man? No, any man that wants to hav a fling...will say that....tell him that there will be no more fooling around until he gets out of the house, and the divorce papers filed.......and if he goes back on his word of getting the divorce after that.....his wife will not have a good time in bed....you will pull a Lorena Bobbit on him, and you won't throw it in a field, but instead down the disposal, and turn it on
2006-07-22 08:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because he could just be telling you that he's getting a divorce, but really isn't. If it's true that he is getting a divorce then wait until it's final. A relationship started while one is married will not work out, if he can cheat on his wife, he can cheat on you.
2006-07-22 08:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO! Been there, and the divorce never happened! He lied and said he was in the process of divorcing his wife, but she just wouldn't sign. He said that everything was over between them and wanted to start his life with me. 6 months later I met his wife and she said that they had never discussed a divorce; and that they had never been happier. He had never moved out and he accually had kids that he didn't tell me about! Don't get involved until the divorce is final because you will only get your heart broken if you hang on to him!
2006-07-22 08:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not! Is he legally seperated from his wife? In some states it is illegal for him to be with any other woman until his divorce is final. If you really care about each other and want things to go smoothly, wait until he is divorced and then see what happens. If he cheats on his wife what will keep him from cheating on you? How could you ever trust someone like that?
2006-07-22 08:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Is he separated from his wife or still living in the same house? If he is still in the house, then you are probably being played. If he has moved out of the house then it is more likely legitimate and he is truly divorcing his wife. Regardless, either way still has the option that he will go back to his wife.
2006-07-22 08:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lubers25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Tell him to call you when his divorce is final. This is one of the oldest lines in the book of the cheater.
Even if he does get a divorce and marries you, what have you got? A person you can count on cheating on you.
2006-07-22 08:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just tell him to call you when it is finalized. You don't really want to be involved with the whole divorce issue. No matter what he says, if his current wife finds out about you, it is going to get ugly, and you are going to be in the middle of it.
2006-07-22 08:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋