My hubby and I have been married for nearly 3 mths and we only consummated the marriage twice. He doesn't initate the sex and he doesn't seem interested in sex too. However, during courtship we had sex at least twice a month.
Does marriage 'kills' sex?
2006-07-22 07:33:08 · 14 answers · asked by Mint_Always 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When I ask him what is wrong and why won't he have sex with me.. His answer is either he is too tired, too stressed up or that he says I am mad... How depressing!
2006-07-22 07:40:24 · update #1
I juz can't understand him. I thot marriage was supposed to be like sex filled!
2006-07-22 07:47:38 · update #2
Firstly, I doubt he is gay. I am 23 and he is 27.
2006-07-22 09:13:49 · update #3
It sould make your sex life more exciting! Now, that you're comitted....maybe he's not ready to be a dad or maybe he found out something wrong with him and he doesn't know how to tell you. You should be asking your hubby this question!
2006-07-22 07:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Communicate with him. Find out why he doesn't enjoy sex--most men do. There is something underlying that is causing him to not be interested. He could have been abused when he was a child, for example. If he doesn't want to talk, you should get therapy right away. The longer you let something like this persist, the harder it is to correct. And you will begin to resent him. Women need their "12 touches" and if he isn't giving any, you will have a hard time and then not want to be intimate with him--then you are in a catch 22.
Find out what works for him and you and discuss it.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-22 07:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
twice ,, u had sex at least twice a month,, darling u have a problem,, get out fast, that is not normal,, my wife and i have sex 1 to 2 times a day every day , once in the morning, i usually wake her up eating her out, or her me, and then again either after work or at bed time, more on the weekends when we have more time,, we have been married for 8 yrs,, ,, heck before we got married we would have sex 3 to 4 times a day
2006-07-22 07:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, marriage doesn't kill sex, in my experience it's made it better each year. There may be an underlying problem that he's too ashamed to talk to you about. But this can make or break a marriage, and you guys need to get this one worked out for the sake of your marriage. He needs to see his doctor to see if there's not some physicological problem on his end. You guys really need to talk this one out, big time. Best of luck to you both.
2006-07-22 07:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do to initiate sex? Do you just leave it up to him? If he's tired or stressed to do try to easy into it. What about backrubs or cuddling?
It seems a little strange to begin with that you only had sex twice a month while you were dating. Has anything else changed in your life besides getting married that would affect him?
2006-07-22 08:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by jadelily78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem might be that he has an erectile dysfunction. Another possibility is sadly he might be gay. I would go to a consular/therapist. Definitely try to start some more communication. its possible he is tired but that's pretty tired. its not often i hear women say there men wont have sex. How old are you two?
2006-07-22 09:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by alicia c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it happens a lot. The stress of marriage too can reduce the desire for sex. Give it time.
2006-07-22 07:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys go through personal things that cause a loss of interest in sex. I went through this with my boyfriend.Is he going through any stress? Stress can be a large factor.
2006-07-22 11:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe hes tired from the heat but he should always have time for love makin and snuggling ive been married 8 yrs and sex is still great !!!
2006-07-22 07:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by gloworm760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels sorry for because nobody want you, and he use you to cover up his gay life style, if you call this marry, then i rather marry the priest than him
2006-07-22 08:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋