Anyone else want to thank Birthmoms for relinquishing their babies for adoption?

Question

I just want to give a big heartfelt thank you for not giving into peer and professional advice to abort your baby. Thank you for accepting your womanhood and sacrificing 9 months of your life, that your (our) child could have a lifetime to live. You are selfless, loving women and I salute you. Your (our) son has grown into a wonderful young man and if you want to meet him I will help you get together, one could never have too much love in his/her life.
Thanks for making my dreams come true. God bless you forever and ever.

Answer 1

that was very sweet hope the lady that changed your life is reading this and who know maybe even get to see her son. i have a friend who put her son up for adotion in 97-98 around that time and she was a waitress . she gets to write letters and all kinds of pic. the family even let her go to a b-day party . even tho she knew she did the right thing it still hurts her to know he is someone elses baby and not hers. buts she went to college and now is starting in her own professional buz and still has not had any more kids right now. last i heard she was going to get married and was not ready to have kids yet.

Answer 2

YES! Thank you to the birthmom who gave me my husband and my son his father!!! I'm sure it was the hardest thing she's ever had to do, handing over her beautiful newborn son to a county officer who, in turn, took him to a foster home. It must have been terrible for her to wonder if her baby was crying at night, if he was wet, if he was cold. When her breasts were engorged with milk and no baby to empty them, she must have wondered if he was hungry. When she showered, she must have wondered if he was clean ...if the water was warm enough for him ...or too hot. She must have ached for the loss of her son and not knowing if he's alive and well. She sacrificed a lot. I hope she never finds out that he was neglected as an infant. That he banged his head against anything for stimulation. That he was malnourished. She was forced into it ...all of it. A rape first and then abortion was illegal at the time. Then she was forced to give him away ...her husband wouldn't have him in their home because he wasn't his son. I hope she never knows that the little baby that she wanted to keep didn't get the attention he needed. The 'system' failed him. She thought she was doing the right thing, but what really happened was that the foster care system was (and is) so terribly out of control, overloaded with children who's parents can't take care of them, that monitoring their home life closely is impossible. Wouldn't it be great if nobody had an abortion and there were loving homes for ALL of them? Even the ones that have brain damage and are on a life support machine? Wouldn't it be wonderful if the foster care system could handle the millions of babies that would be born and, better yet, if there were enough parents out there for each of those kids? Too bad we can't afford all the welfare, medical costs for millions of kids ...and too bad there are so many unwanted pregnancies.

Answer 3

That was a very nice comment and I am glad your son has you,

When I was 17 a girl I hardly knew asked me to be the "godparent" of her child. Thankfully I said yes, She had no family and would leave him with me a for a weekend starting at 2 weeks. Thank god it was at my mothers house, where she taught my how to take care of him.
unfortunately, she was very lost, and not a fit mother and I lived with her and took care of her baby all the time. Eventually I called my mother crying and admitted to her that I wasnt ready to take care of this girls' child and that I couldnt leave her alone with him because she would for example leave him unattended in the bathtub lying on his back at 6 months old. (I would go running take over)
My mother made me call the authorities to ensure his safety and a great start at life,
Long story short, she lost custody of the baby and he was adopted out to a new family forever.

I thought it was a miracle that I just happened to run into this girl I was not that great of friends with and become so entwined with the childs fate, like it was meant to be, and he was meant to be with his new family.
I also always wondered if I could somehow contact his family-or if they wanted me to, to let him know about the fate that brought him to his family.

I do not blame her, she was very lost. I am glad to say that she does not blame me either, this was 8 years ago now and I have run into her. She does unfortunately now have 3 more children to different fathers and I hope that they are safe.

Answer 4

What a wonderful thing to say, you just brought a tear (or two) to my eye. I was not adopted, nor have I given a child up for adoption. But I do have an adopted brother and I cannot imagine what life would be like without my 'baby brother'. I guess I just want to say "Thank you" to the woman who gave him life so we could enjoy his presence. And to thank you for sharing with us in your graditude. You must be an awesome parent.

Answer 5

I want to share your thankfulness. IN the abstract, eys i do.

But in the case of my sons, both adopted, I don't, exactly.

I can't really be thankful to the mother of my eldest, who stayed with a abusive gangbanger who hated his unborn second child. I cannot forgive her for leaving my son in his birth father's care, knowing that he hated the boy. I cannot forgive her for allowing my son to be slammed into a wall when he was 2.5 WEEKS old, resulting in permanent brain injury and epilepsy. I can't forgive her for, after this happened, trying to get back together with this criminal, and thus losing custody of both her children.

I can't be thankful to the mother of my second son, either. It's hard to be thankful to someone who left a child unattended in his crib while she went out and partied and clubbed. From the time he was 8 months to the time he was 22 months she ignored and neglected him, leaving him with severe development problems and permanent partial hearing loss (due to undiagnosed and untreated ear infections).

My sons are wonderful boys, and are doing better than anyone ever thought they would. But their lives have been negatively effected forever by their birth mothers decisions. I rejoice in their lives, but wish they HAD the courage and insight to relinquich children they didn't want. Their sacrifice in carrying my boys, and delivering them would earn my gratitude if they had displayed the slightest concern for their well-being after their birth. I am unconvinced they were selfless, since they appear to me to have been oblivious or even callous.

I don't hate either of the women who gave birth to our sons. And if, later in life, they want to meet their birth mothers I have no objection -- and I would never say a word to them about my feelings in regard to them.

Answer 6

What a wonderful thing to write! I am raising one of my grandchildren. I know it was hard for my daughter to admit she was not ready. She often faces ignorant comments for letting us raise her daughter. I have a great deal of respect for young woman who are not ready to raise children that opt for adoption.
It takes a lot of courage. Making this decision is an act of love. Thank you for bringing this to others attention.

Answer 7

Absolutely YES. It is great to give your child a better chance if you can't meet thier needs on your own.
And imagine how greatful infertile couples are to get the chance to be parents-I know I would be!

Answer 8

They need to be commended....because they are doing something real nice and wonderful for the child.

Answer 9

I thank anyone who thinks of the children first.

Answer 10

I do. thanx to all the birthmoms who aren't appreciated for putting your child/children up for adoption so they could have a better life.