I am going out with a girl who I have been going out with for several months and I love her and we are happy together. The only problem is she is a strong mormon and I am a christian. No matter what I say it doesn't seem to be enough that we both believe in God and Jesus Christ... So she is always on me to go to church with her, which I have a few times. She gave me a book of Mormon and a little supplimentry reading. Now I read alot of this and Mormon is not for me. I can't wrap my mind around alot of their rules and policies as I find them very contradictive to the bible. But she won't let it rest. She just told me she has some missionaries set up to meet me. How can I stop this without losing her?
2006-07-22 07:10:29 · 8 answers · asked by freeze_guy_2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is easy, you can't!
You cannot control how she feels as conviction to her religion as much as you cannot change her feelings on your own religion. My hats off to you for trying but in the end, if you did convert, would you be happy?
It's my feeling and with experience that I say, you cannot control what and how someone feels or acts, you have no control over that, accept yourself.
A relationship is about mutual happiness, what is good for one is not always good for the other, I suggest you take a break and make clear that you are not interested in conversion nor are you willing to do such. tell her that you love her but compromising your personal beliefs would not be a happy relationship because there is not mutuality between you both.
tell her that you'll give her time to think about it and when she's ready tell her to call you. Be prepared for the ultimate, she may not want to be with you, if it is the case, then accept that and move forward. At least you were thoughtful enough to give her the chance, feel no guilt just wish her well and that's all.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-22 07:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
jeez she really wants you to change religion and it seems like she's forcing you into mormon. if she loves you enough does it really matter what religion you are. Why can't you just stay a christian? and if being mormon isn't what you want to be then don't be one. my friends are mormon and i think they have a lot of rules too. i remember my friend wanted me to convert everyone i know into christianity but i didn't think that i should and that they should go at their own time and do whatever they want.
You shouldn't force someone into doingsomething they don't want.
Ask her if she truly loves you and i mean that real love and if she says yes than ask her if it religion matters so much to get in the way of your relationship?
good luck
2006-07-22 14:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by fairytale_dreamer22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...i think I've been there!!! First of all try to make her understand that you are two individuals and although you are together you are allowed to have different opinions.You shouldn't be the reflexion of each other! It gets boring!But i think you should make her respect your choices and your religion! You should also think that if she can't respect your ideas and your choices...she's NOT the one. Love comes and goes...but you shouldn't give up on YOU, and you shouldn't let anyone change you unless you consider it is necessary!
Good luck! And take good care in what you believe in!
2006-07-22 14:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by iri_i_m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol - welcome to life.
You can convert, or you can find someone on your own religious level.
Simple and hard to do, but it's the only options. You're not going to make her give up her faith...not going to happen.
Quite frankly, it's selfish of you to even think she should have to do that. I mean...if you can request she tone it down, then she should be within her right to have you convert.
PS - you sound young, but this is a very serious issue for peple in relationships. Tons of people get into relationships and marraige thinking they can change the other person...it doesn't happen, and just sets a foundation for fights and disagreements. I mean...what about kids? Whose church do you raise them in? What about holidays?
2006-07-22 14:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with her and tell her look.I'm not interested in missionaries.I don't want to talk to them.I think its best if you. just try and let me be what religion I am. and stop trying to convert me into your's I'm not into be a mormon so please stop trying to make me something that i'm not.
2006-07-22 14:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm with her. Why should you convert to something you don't believe. She sounds like trouble, you should ditch her and find someone more open minded
2006-07-22 14:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by mrmoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible.
When a person REALLY believes in a religion, he/she believes MORE in it than how she could believe in the person she loves.
Besides, you cannot stand against God.
You should accept it.
2006-07-22 14:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her so much then you will know what to do just talk to her.
2006-07-22 14:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋