2006-07-22 06:55:14 · 23 answers · asked by mar 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Depends on the situation - I work in a hospital, so if it's a patient being unfair to me, then I will usually tolerate it, because I understand it's not directed at me - they're just frustrated, maybe in pain, stressed, and sick. If it's a coworker, friend or family member, or someone that I'm paying for a service from, then hell no.
2006-07-22 06:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Julia L. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the time, yes. It really depends on the situation. If it is something that has to be taken care of and important, something has to be said. On the other hand, when someone is just being rude or otherwise, I just take it and choose to be the bigger person. I believe in karma and they will get their fair share. But in certain situations, you have to be assertive.
2006-07-23 20:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't have a choice in having to tolerate it but you don't have to let it control or define you. I've been going through a lot of that lately in fighting my aunt over custody of my grandmother. She's lied to people all over town in accusing me of abusing my grandmother simply because my grandmother chose me over her to take care of her affairs. My aunt left this town 51 years and contacts with her over the last 20 years have basically consisted of her coming to visit twice a year for a few days. How can she possibly blame my grandmother for thinking that I would know her wishes better when I've been here taking care of her and her estate for years. Anyway, sorry about the venting. What I was getting at is that I have no choice but to tolerate this as it goes through the legal process but I don't let the things that she's saying control my actions or make me feel less about myself or question how my grandmother feels about me. Of course, in my case I know that in the end the truth will come out and I will be vindicated of all her allegations. BUT, even if I weren't here on earth, I know that I eventually would be in heaven. We can't make people be nice, or fair, or control how they treat us. All we can do is take charge of our lives and not let them control our actions, feelings, or emotions. So far its working for me - Hope it works for you too.
2006-07-22 17:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I used to suck it up and keep how I felt to myself and let them treat me wrong. As I have gotten older, I don't. I speak up for myself because they are in the wrong. I used to worry that it would make things worse if I did stand up for myself, but now I understand that I have a right to be treated fairly and I have a right to let you know I don't like the behavior. It's taken a long time to get to that point, but now that I'm there, it feels great!
2006-07-23 02:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how it's affecting me. If they're just talking a load of crap, I smile sweetly and walk away. It's not worth my energy to try to defend myself against nonsense. If it's affecting my ability to get promoted, etc, then I try to clarify my position to the boss, or maybe start looking for another job.
Basically, I don't feel that I get treated unfairly (usually). If you feel you're often treated unfairly, then stop and look at that feeling - it may be telling you something about yourself.
2006-07-22 13:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by locolady98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't tolerate it.
but one have to sometimes tolerate it.
meaning it depend's
if they are your father and mother and brother and sister and your sisters childern or your brother childern or your own childern. one have to tolerate. and even when mother or father relatives are the one, then for your mother and father sake you have to tolerate them.
but if other unrelative or person is unfair i will create a fight. that 's why in the house i am the called one with hot temper.
2006-07-22 14:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes.I gues it depends on who they are.I let certain people be unfair because I love them.Others I dont give a f8ck I demand respect.
2006-07-22 13:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to fight it, but sometimes it's futile and I just have to let it go. But before I do that I research for a legal answer to it so I can use the law and have it on my side!
2006-07-22 13:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually yeah. i'm a door mat type of girl.
lifes too short to bother getting into big things with ppl that are too self absorbed
2006-07-22 13:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, then I return to them fair treatment. We must lead by example and teach if we are to expect reciprocity.
2006-07-22 14:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by DHAZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋