the girl im goin to see tommorrow at her flat said we'll stick to the living room. because i asked is she still up for the date tommorrow. and she said yes but it depends if my back gets better if not i'll have to stay in bed, but hopefully it'll be okay. ( then i said) well thats ok if youve got a tv or player in your room we can still have a laugh. ( then she said) we'll stick to the living room, )~and it feels like a bit of a blow rejection that she said this. im already incredibly anxious about tommorrow as i stuggle with my self esteem. plus if you read my other questions you'll no i have other mental health problems. im thinking once she gets to no me properly and she sees my extreme low self opinion, i'll get rejected~and rejection is somethin i take very hard as im already lonley person with lonely life and alone
2006-07-22 06:45:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, you shouldn't consider this a rejection. She is probably trying to take things slower and that is nothing to be ashamed of. Relationships that go too fast usually end up not working, while long-term relationships are usually the ones where the people in them decided to take it slow and not jump into things. She probably feels that you were setting her up to "go all the way" or have sex or whatever the highest level of the relationship is that you two haven't already experienced. In plainer words, she doesn't want a guy to "do & screw" or f*ck and leave, you know? Hope I've been of some help. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-22 06:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is rejecting you. it seems like she is letting you know that nothing is going to be going on that takes place in the bedroom (sex). You may have low self-esteem but she probably isn't comfortable with being in her bedroom with you. Not to say you are going to rape her but she probably had experiences where she has invited someone over and the guy tried to get to 3rd base. And let's be honest, men (not all of them) tend to think "....oh, i'm going to her house, so, i know i'm going to get some". So she's just letting you know where she stands so you won't A. waste your time (if that is what you are looking for, and B. set your expectations high for something you are not going to get. She sounds like a pretty genuine person, i'd see where this one goes. Good luck!
2006-07-22 14:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by high_yella305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She still wants to see you, so she's not rejecting you! She wants to take her time. There's nothing wrong with that for either of you. She obviously likes you. There are no guarantees about rejection. It happens to EVERYONE! However, if you don't take the risk to find out about another person, you'll definitely be alone. Good luck.
2006-07-22 14:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt take it as rejection, although its difficult to answe properly without lnowing how many dates youve been on with her, how well you know her etc, easy for me to say i know but dont put ypurself down about once she gets to know you
2006-07-22 13:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by shed1_90210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cuz she said that, doesn't mean that's what'll happen. I say stuff like that to men just cuz don't want them to think I'm easy. Don't feel rejected-she still wants to hang out, right?
2006-07-22 13:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by purplekristi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants to screw in the living room. Have fun.
2006-07-22 14:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U could still nail her on the table,think of it!
2006-07-22 13:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by howcoolcanub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think you so lonely.just hang with her and if she is being rude. just be like. i dont have to take this from you.im going to my other g/f's house and walk out.girls r crazy
2006-07-22 13:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋