I'm a virgin, and everyone around me says its good and i should stay that way till marriage but i don't see the point. Every guy i've been with wanted me to "give it up"...and i didn't cus i was too scared. it seems like the only way i could get a guy to marry me is if i have sex. its hard to believe but i cant find a decent guy out there that won't go out with me for more than two weeks without asking for it. So whats the point of trying to stay a virgin if no guy would want you? I really wanna keep my virginity but girls who seem to rush into relationship and give it up so easily get mroe guys than me, and i hardly get attention, so whats the point. everybody acts like beign a virgin is soooo good, but it sucks. it seems like everyone thats not a virgin has a wonderful love lfie and everyting, and i get the oppisite.
2006-07-22 06:36:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen up...
Do you think everyone tells you that for kicks and giggles? They tell you because it's true.
Aside from the fact that you could conceive an unwanted pregnancy or contract a venereal disease, there is the emotional let down of being used because that is exactly what it is at your age 99.99% of the time.
Males during their teenage years are at the height of their sexuality. It's an old joke that boys of a young age will jump anything that's moving slow enough for them to catch - and willing. Love is just a word they learn to use like a lock in a key to get what they want from you.
Females during their teenage years are at the hieght of their emotional vulnerability. They are towering columns of emotional insecurity inside. Their biggest fear is not being attractive enough. What will make a girl feel attractive and desired?
Yep, you guessed it. A horny young stud muffin wanting to have sex with her. To him it's a way to get off and brag to his friends like an ape thumping his chest. To you, it's love and you are already planning your wedding, What happens when this doesn't work out?
Right again! You are emotionally let down and hurt. You're angry at yourself for being tricked out of something that you can never get back. You're hurt that it wasn't the love you thought it would be.
Men take great stock in being a woman's first lover. In some countries men pay a great deal to a girl's parents to be the first to deflower her. That's just the way it is - it's a competative thing with males.
If you can keep yourself a virgin until marriage, you will make your husband an extremely happy man. You will never face the question all men ask, "how many did you have before me?" It is a gift that you saved for him alone.
I realize that it is seen as no big deal to have oral sex or to lose your virginity anymore. But believe me, many of those that claim they are having sex are lying. And the ones that actually have wish they hadn't done it.
One final word; do what you want to do about having sex because it's what you want to do - not because someone else tells you to, or because you think it's popular, or a boy tells you that you need to in order to keep him or prove your love, If someone loves you, they would never ask you to do something you are unsure or uncomfortable about. If they tell you that and then dump you when you don't put out, you haven't lost a thing.
2006-07-22 07:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 17⤊ 6⤋
okay. i am a virgin 2. It is a good thing. one because you want your first time to be meaningful with someone you have been with for a long time and feel "right" with doing it. another thing you may think that all the girls that r giving it up are the ones that get all the attention, and they may be, but in the long run girls who have waited are the ones that guys when right out of high school really want to be with. If it seems like you cant find a decent guy for you to go out with maybe you arent looking for the right guy. Maybe your going for guys that arent worth your time. Try to look for differant personalitys in guys. that should help
2006-07-22 13:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you need to calm down and come to terms with yourself. Keeping your virginity is a personal decision and when you 'give it up' it should be on your terms alone.
There is no value in having 'more' boyfriends that just want to sleep with you. Go slow and make it clear to the guys in your life that you're not going there until you're ready. Will some guys leave...yes, but why is that bad? All they want is to take what you don't want to give them.
Being a virgin isn't good or bad - it's yours. And it's yours to do with as you choose. There are decent guys who will appreciate it, but they are probably a little harder to find. Be true to your values.
2006-07-22 13:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds that you have a good head on your sholders.
It is your body and you should do with it what you want. If waiting is what you want, then do that.
When the right person comes along, he will be willing to wait until you are ready to give yourself to him. If he don't want to wait, he is not the right one.
He is out there, you just have to be patient.
Don't rush into something you don't want to do just because your friends are.
Believe m, there are guys out there who will chreish you for your morals and like you even if you are a virgin.
2006-07-22 13:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by ouwx104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah dont stay a virgin.
men want experience. We don't women who do it like fish. Just lay there and let us do all the work. We want action and response. Things that a virgin is just not gonna know. I say experience sex seriously and S A F E L Y.
2006-07-22 13:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Virginity according to bible,children of israel have so much respect to there virgin children,the story about the children of david is a good example to you, these children kill one another because the other brother abuse are sister,they are not the same mother
2006-07-22 14:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by ayinde m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then give up your virginity. At the end of the day its personal preference, I have to admit sex is fantastic but if you had no urges to have sex then why bother?
do what you want not what other people say is right
2006-07-22 13:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was a virgin until I was 23 and basically, maybe I was better off for it because I was concentrating on my career and education. It helped me get further in my life.
2006-07-22 13:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Hi : 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have a kid and i lost my virginity at 16 and had a kid at 17. i would love to be a virin again . and if a guy really oves you than he will except the fact you are a virgin and want to remain that way. if they dont want to accept it then they arent worth your time
2006-07-22 13:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re-read your own question, you have provided the answer. Think, if you had sex with everyone who asked, you'd be a "slut" or whore. That what you want ? When you meet a man you care for it will come naturally.
2006-07-22 13:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls like virgins
2006-07-22 13:39:19 · answer #11 · answered by kingrome_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋