A girl claims to be completely in love with you, and then just disappears and quits talking to you. One day she's all about how she wants to be all over me, the next day she wants nothing to do with me.
This has now happened twice and it's getting frustrating. Should I just stay away from women and be a monk? Is this just how it's going to be?
2006-07-22 06:26:20 · 17 answers · asked by I Know Nuttin 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When they say that they love you completely, what do you do? Do you start to withdraw, do you say you love them also? Do you reciprocate or not? Your response might be what they are using to decide to stay or go. But they also might be saying to get you in bed with them. Then they leave because they only want one night and there are some women like that. So stop going for the women who are all over you right away. Find someone you actually have something in common with and go from there. Take it slow.
2006-07-22 06:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't stay away from women, and don't become a Monk, unless you have a HUGE calling to do so (not just to get away from women). I would say that you need to analyze the "type" of girl you are choosing to date. Apparently this type is not the "right", long-lasting type for you. Make a list of important qualities, and then go after girls that have them. Good luck.
2006-07-22 13:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...obviously you're doing something wrong and it's just not working or you , man. You probably need to consult with some of your best buddies, possibly female, and ask what you might be doing wrong. Is it that you're not following up when she's making advances? It's it your love technique? Are you giving her enough attention, or too much? Are you expecting to sleep with her too early? It's got to be something, Dude, if this has happened twice. Why not try to be friends first with a girl, then progress as time goes on. It certainly couldn't hurt. Good Luck.
2006-07-22 13:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I had exactly the same thing with my ex-gf (ppl had warned me she was crazy before we got together), it went with periods.. In a good period she was all over me, and the next week her enthousiasm could drop below zero all of a sudden with no apparent reason.. Two weeks before she dumped me everything was going great, we made plans to go on a holliday etc.. but because of my exams I couldn't see her for a while, and all of a sudden she stopped sending messages, was ignoring me on msn and finally she told me she had realised we should better be just friends..
She has high standards, easily fixates herself on minor details and starts enlarging them (she had it in all prev relationships, none of them lasted longer than 3months), was emotionally impulsive and her feeling about our relationship could turn 180degrees triggered by some minor thing..
It was so frustrating because I had no influence on this all, if she had a good period it was great, if she had a bad one there was noting I could do about it and felt rejected.. Well all my friends told me she was the one with a problem, but it still aches to have the feeling you're not good enough.
It makes you doubt about yourself, but don't let it bring you down.. women are complex, and some are just crazy.. Try to move on and you'll run into a good girl, just stay away from the crazy ones.. I realised you cannot have a happy relationship with girls playing games, don't let them take advantage of you, in the end you're better off without.. (although its hard to realise that when you're in love.. but don't let them play their game on you, thats the mistake I made)
2006-07-22 13:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by III 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably scared. one day confident, one day scared.
*sigh* I dont know.. women are a lil nutty at times.
I see that all the time when someone has a social anxiety disorder..
what do you do? do you like her? can you except that behaviour? cause it probably wont get better too quickly. if you want to be with someone, it should be for who they are completely. if you cant except that, then do go for her. there ARE other people out there.. so you wont have to become a monk unless you REALLY WANNA! :)
2006-07-22 13:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have bad breath or you smell funny. Check all of this with a female friend, ask her what she thinks it could be.
Buy some nice clothes, get a book on reading body language, make dating a fun game, then play the game.
2006-07-22 13:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think of two things when you say this. One that you might fall to fast show way to much emotion. Guys sometimes do this and sometimes not and when a guy does it's just weird because guys just don't do that emotion stuff. Two your not showing enough interest to her. I know it all sucks. To little, not enough, tough world lol Anyways good luck
2006-07-22 13:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls(not all of them) like 2 do that 2 men 2 c how they react and i am defanitley not that kind of person but 1 of my friends is!!!
and it gets on my nerve how she is stil always talkin bout him and how cute he is!!>..........well the point is dont become a monk!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-22 13:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by the1andOnly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her period is coming be prepare for it every month if she's not pregnant
of course to became a monk would be kind of way out for you ;>
2006-07-22 13:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman friend of mine once said; " all women are crazy", just join the asylum.
2006-07-22 13:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋