how do you get over a broken heart when your mum dies.?

Question

ive seen death before when dad died im looking at photos of mum dad and the hurt is unbarable when can i look at a photo without pain in my heart.

Answer 1

You don't - especially if your relationship has been a close one.

Don't try to forget but treasure in your heart all the happy memories you shared together.

Know now that she is in a better place and have the faith to know that one day you will meet up again.

be assured that although you will never forget her and will continue to miss her, the pain will get less.

Try to think what she would want for you - that you move forward to live a life that is as full and interesting as it can be. If you have love within you, seek now to share it with others in your family and those who are important to you

Answer 2

Hun..she's in you and you are in her. There never will be a love like that in your life, but you will overcome the pain. You have to go through those ugly feelings first, cause that's the only way you will heal. Read this, it helped me when i lost my dad...


This Too Shall Pass

If I can endure for this minuteWhatever is happening to me,No matter how heavy my heart isOr how dark the moment may be-If I can remain calm and quietWith all the world crashing about me,Secure in the knowledge God loves meWhen everyone else seems to doubt me-If I can but keep on believingWhat I know in my heart to be true,That darkness will fade with the morningAnd that this will pass away, too-Then nothing in life can defeat meFor as long as this knowledge remainsI can suffer whatever is happeningFor I know God will break all of the chainsThat are binding me tight in the darknessAnd trying to fill me with fear-For there is no night without dawningAnd I know that my morning is near....Helen Steiner Rice

Answer 3

My dad died 7 years ago followed suddenly by my mum 2 years later . It was kinda harder with my mum because she took ill was diagnosed with cancer and passed away all within an 8 week period. I dont think i ever grieved properley even now but i just keep thinking "what would my parents want me to do" "what advice would they give me"

And that is to make the best of my life and try to enjoy it in the best way possible. try and think like that and i hope it will make each day that passes a little more bearable.

Answer 4

keith, to be honest you will never get over it. for the rest of your life a picture, a smell even the way somone else does or says somthing will make you weepy eyed. in time it wont hurt as much but only time can heal that but it never really stops. please take solice in knowing a couple things though, which im sure you already know. God will not put more on you then you can handle,they are in a better place now, and if mom is watching now what do you think she is saying about her son crying , if yours is like my mother she is saying look at the good things and the great memories and laugh and rejoice dont be a butt head or somthing to that nature. dude moms are the most special thing to loose and cant be replaced.

keith, im going out on a limb here, but if your like most people you are kicking yourself for things you did or didnt say your having problems actually seeing her face with out a picture or remembering how your life was when she was here. these are all natural during the greiving process. as time goes on youll see somthing and it will remind you of her and youll just stare at them. mine with my grandmother is seeing an elderly heavey set woman with her hair up in a bunn i get a great smile and touch of warmth seeing it , you will also start noticinging things like that. treat their memories with respect and love. and think if they are watching you what are they telling you. love and be happy??

Answer 5

Sorry for your loss. My dad died 3 years ago. I think of him everyday, but now I think about silly things he said. It does take alot of time. Don't put on a brave face. If it hits you and you feel like breaking down crying-do it, feel it. Tell yourself not to block the emotion, ride it out. If you hold it back it will only take longer to release that feeling whether it takes a week or 5 years. Time doesn't erase your feelings, but you'll get to a point where every day gets a little easier.

Answer 6

You can't/ And why get over the pain? It keeps you close when you remember her like that. You'll feel pain. I always do when I look at pictures of my mom, why died when I was seven. It will just be there. But you know, it's better to hurt and remember her than to not feel anything at all and forget her. The pain helps you remember what she was like. If you didn't feel any emotion about it, it's harder to remember. It will be alright, the way you choose to grieve and view death makes you who you are. But I say that you shouldn't let the pain go away because it keeps you close to her.

Good luck. Email me if you ever need to talk about it. [e-mail]

~*Toodles*~

Answer 7

If you are looking for the sad feelings to end they wont. Take one day at a time and try to remember the good times and the fun you and them had. I am very sure they would want you to be happy and move on with your life. I have lost loved ones and I remember the good times and it helps me, its ok to have good cry and let it out, keeping it bottled up will not help. I hope I was some help.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

my dad died 21 years ago and my mum died 14 years ago......i havnt got any photos of my mum and only 1 of my dad.........even after all this time when i think of them it is with sadness,i often wish my mum was still around so that i can talk to her.

so in answer to your question the pain never really goes away it just gets easier to cope with........

Answer 10

I am sorry to learn about the death of your parents online now. It broke my heart too. Truly, it is unbearable at times, to mourn for your beloved ones especially you recalled the wonderful moments shared with them. Everyone of us go through death of our parents whether we like it or not, it is the natural process.

Let your tears fall if you need , crying is also a healing process and time will heal too.