How to create a "memory table" at my wedding?

Question

I am getting married next November. I want to create a table or something similar to honor the people who has passed away in our families. The only problem is we have a lot of people. For my fiance, his mother, father, brother-in law and both sets of grandparents. For me grandfather, uncle and greatgrandmother. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and I also don't want it to look like a memorial service. What do I do??

Answer 1

I've always thought of a memory table as being about the couple getting married and their courtship. That's what we did at our wedding. Maybe you could add some memories of the two of you in with photos of your late family members. Make the table more of a representation of the two families becoming one, it will keep it from feeling like a memorial table and more of a memory table. Also, another idea would be to list the family members who have died in the order of service for the wedding, if you were planning to hand out something like that. On ours we said, "Lovingly Remembered Today" and then listed their names and the relationship to the me or my husband IE., "Grandfather of the Bride". Just a couple of ideas, good luck.

Answer 2

I'm sorry, but the whole "memorial" thing at weddings really bothers me, especially when it's during the ceremony. It's a wedding, not a memorial service! I can understand wanting to honor the memory of someone who couldn't be with you, but some people go waaaaay overboard. One wedding was more memorial service, complete with special prayers than it was a wedding.

If this is something that you must do, keep it small or it WILL end up looking like a memorial service. I liked what the other person suggested, one (small) photo album for each family and maybe one candle. Another idea I've seen is a place setting at the head table or family table with a place card reading "for those who can not be with us today".

Remember, people are coming to the wedding to celebrate the two of you beginning your life together not to remember those who have passed.

Answer 3

I suggest a photo album one from each side of the family.
I would also include a photo album of each of you both as well. You will not be hurting feelings if you just place them on a table for everyone to look at.
I would get together a poster board and put pictures of you both on it from the time you meet.
At the top of the poster board I would put pictures of you and him when you were little, that away the focus of the pictures is about you too and then the photo albums on a small table of the love ones you both have lost.
Remember they are with you in spirit and that is all that matters.
Best wishes to you and your future :)

Answer 4

Set pictures up of you or your fiance with the person that died. That way it still ties back to you as a couple but you can still remember those that you love so much. Tori Spelling had pictures of the people in her life that passed away tied into her bouquet.... that is always an option. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

Get some pictures and put up. Pictures that mean something to you guys. Or what my cousin did at her wedding they made like a dvd with pictures and home movies and played it at her wedding on a little T.V on a table next to her cake. It was really nice and simple. Hope that helps.

Answer 6

Make copies of photograhs of each person you wish to celebrate in black and white print and all with the same frame. Light a candle in front of each picture. Maybe also tie a ribbon around the candle that matches the color scheme.

Answer 7

Light unity candles to represent the memory of the people.It is easy plus you can have alot and still look great or release white doves or butterflys for each member who has passed away.

Answer 8

I went to a wedding and they had an insert in the Wedding Order of Service.And it had those special ones that could not be here and the names.I thought that was different and I liked it.It wasn't too much and it was cute.They had quite a few-her parents and his daughter,etc.