My 12 year pld daughter and my 9 year old son drive me and my husband nuts is what my sister always complains about. How can she get her kids to shut up about money, the pool, and staying at a friends?
2006-07-22 05:22:26 · 10 answers · asked by spoiled_punkprincess 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i know how she feels because my 9 yrs old daughter do me the same way , because she is out for summer break wants to go stay the night with her cousins or friends or wants to go somewhere all the time , but i am the type of person i like to stay in the house with the a/c and i can afford to take her no where that much the way gas prices or over here in north carolina $309 a gallon
2006-07-22 05:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by angel h 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
lol...there is no way kids are not going to continue to do the job they have been sent to do - drive their parents crazy! Somehow, they learn this job dutifully and perform it willingly without remorse, or recourse. lol. I think it's just the fact of kids being kids. As parents, we have to remember that we did the same thing to our parents- possibly not in the same degrees because of our generations, but we did. When I was growing up we didn't talk back to our parents - (but we mumured under our breath and talked about them to each other!) We did our homework and chores and made good grades and smiled and went to church and respected our teachers (but we still managed to play jokes on them, lie to them, get away with stuff they didn't know about) -it was just done on a different level. What kids and parents don't seem to realize now is they have a greater benefit of being able to communicate openly and honestly. The kids going off about money and the pool and friends? That is nothing. Parents just need to spend more time talking with and to their children and establishing some ground rules. When they get to the ages of 9 and 12 - if those converstations have never been established - that's the reason the parents are feeling bombarded. I'm not bragging, but my daughter is now 20 and even though I was an older mom, I believed in establishing rules and she learned them at a young age. She just didn't defy me. When I said something - it was law. She didn't have the benefit of running back and forth to friends spending the night - I established that rule at a young age. Those nights were very, very restricted. She received an allowance and got money for gifts and that was it -she didn't bug me about money. She knew what we had to pay for and she grew up understanding that money didn't grow on trees. She learned to appreciate the 'extra'. Pools? What pools? Parents have to establish their children at a young age and help them learn the boundaries. That's it. Kids don't have to drive parents nuts unless parents let them. Finally, the parents who's kids are driving them nuts are the same kids that are driving their teachers nuts too. lol
2006-07-22 05:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at this tender age they are simply curious 'bout life. Let them experience life but to a limit. Discipline is very important. Say Yes & No with explaination followed by this magic words ' I love u'.
2006-07-22 06:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 9 yr old said its because kids are crazy... Accuatly, I think it has something to do with that "you get it 10 fold" wives tale that is out there... or the kids grandparents have vudo dolls and are just having fun with us...lol
2006-07-22 05:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by kutskova29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you ever heard the phrase: "Insanity is inherited from your children." It is something that every parent has deal with. They are just kids.
2006-07-22 05:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just testing their limits. If you are inconsistent then they're just waiting for you to provide the answer they want. Don't just say yes or no but really explain why.
2006-07-22 05:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called pushing buttons, kids are born with the knowledge of this.
i have two boys, it's no wonder that i am not legally insane by now.
2006-07-22 05:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to start at a young age on being a parent not while they are this age
2006-07-22 05:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by kissie623 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are not in control of the kids.Retroactive abortion!
2006-07-22 05:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by Wounded duckmate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DISCIPLINE!
2006-07-22 05:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by generalafropuf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋