I know that I should love and respect them, but I find it especially hard to get along with my father. He has a big temper and after he fires up and gets me angry, he tries to get back on my good side with faking innocence. I know that it's wrong to dislike your own father, so please help! I want to fix this!
2006-07-22 04:49:16 · 7 answers · asked by kewlchic189 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father loves you. You know for sure that every human being is made up in his or her unique way. Each one of us have some limitations, shortcomings, faults and weaknesses. So do we all have something good and noble. Your father's weakness is his temper. Besides, he has not practiced or taught himself to see this and correct it in the right way. However, he knows it and therefore wants to get back on your good side because deep down inside, he feels frustrated and ashamed of having thrown his temper at you. From what you write, or the fact that you write about it at all shows your own concern for your relationship. And it only means that you love your dad and not dislike him. You dislike his temper thats all.
Children can be great teachers to their parents sometimes. You need to bring up this matter with your dad when he is in his best mood and tell him how much you love him when he is sweet and nice. Also you need to tell him that when he displays his temper, it makes you sad. Also if he could take 3 deep breaths before firing out, it would help his anger to subside and allow his mind to think clearly before his mouth shoots off. And ofcourse, then he would not have to try to get back on your good side faking innocence. When you tell him these things, be sure you are earnest and nice to him, and say it in a slight (only slightly) pleading manner. I am sure he will see it as something mature coming from his child and will begin to respect you more for it.
Once this is taken care of, you should be careful not to do things he does not like. And if you must, you should discuss the matter with him first, gently.
Most times, in our busy lifestyles, all of us take our family members for granted and treat one another like furniture in the house. A word of appreciation, a hug and kiss without any reason, are sure to improve respect and love for one another. You need to work at this as you are young and can change a bit but your dad will take some time. Good luck to you.
2006-07-22 05:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by someone 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Noone chooses their family. Sice you have one already, learn to to deal with them.
The best way is to keep them away from you and try to tell them only the good news. Preferably on the phone...
Once you are an adult and have a separate home, your relationship with become more mature.
First you love them unconsciously(age 0-12),then you really hate them for limiting your freedoms(13-18), but once you go away you start realizing how much they've done for you...
Be careful: we live our childhoods all our lives, over and over.
Your relationship with your husband and kids will reflect your family model whatever you do.
2006-07-22 05:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by bunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does he get angry all the time? Any particular reason? But if you say that he is always like this, then you should be patient enough. Dont go to talk with him when he is angry. Talk with him when he is happy and asked him the reason for behaving like that. Maybe he has some kind of problem that keeps bothering me. So try to share it with him.
2006-07-22 05:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Smelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my mom I tell her only certain things about me because I dont trust her but I want her to feel that i can talk to her.I spend time with her and if she needs help i'm there.My stepdad,I ask him how is day at work was everyday just to let him know i realize that he was gone and i want him to know that i care about his day was even though i wasn't there at his work so i can help him around the house.But don't feel bad about how u feel about your dad my stepdad is the same way innocence on the outside and evil on the inside.Thats the only thing I despise about him.
2006-07-22 06:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend a little less time on the computer and the phone. Try to do things with im one on one. Since you are being a big person start with somethin he likes to do then the next time you can choose something you like to do more.
2006-07-22 04:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents and I always fought. Until I moved out when I was 18. Now we get along like best friends.
2006-07-22 04:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by curstadevon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your father is faking inoccence, tell him how you feel, or ask how he feels right then. If you ask how he feels, listen to what he says, then tell him how you feel. It works like a charm with me and my dad.
2006-07-22 06:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋