2006-07-22 04:33:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why do people feel it's necissary to tell me how to punish my own child. I did not ask you for your opinion on the time out technique, I asked about what age to start it.
Thank you to those who gave me straight answers to my question.
2006-07-22 04:48:36 · update #1
Time outs are a way for you to control your child but not a way for a child to learn self-control. You do not want to punish your child, you want to discipline them. Right?
Try and use logical consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privileges when your child misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if your child throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If your child makes a mess, they clean it. If your child breaks a toy, it goes in the trash. If your child damages something in the home, money comes out of their piggy bank or he earns money doing things around the house to pay for the damages. Let the type of discipline fit the crime.
Another technique you can try when your child is misbehaving is this. As soon as he or she misbehaves, get down to their level and say "I don't like when you (explain what and why)." Take them gently by the hand and put them in a spot in your home (his/her room, the couch.) Say "When you're ready to (listen, stop, behave) then you can come back with me." This is not a time out because you are not giving a time limit (you controlling your child). Your child returns when they are ready to control themselves. You may have to take your child back to the spot a few times before they get the message. Thank him/her when he/she behaves. This can be used once they become a toddler.
Find ways to help your child learn to express emotions. Say things like "I can tell that you are (upset, angry, mad, hurt, frustrated). What can we do about that?"
Notice when your child is not misbehaving. Say things like "You worked on that for a long time! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on that picture!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders.
Set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. "No" should mean "No" the first time you say it. Say "Yes" as much as possible. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!
2006-07-22 10:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 4
2006-07-22 11:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by hooter1315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started it about two years you have to be on your toes and if sitting in a chair is the time out you have to be there to re-sit the child if he or she gets up each time repeating the reason and how long they have to sit. For a child that young I would go with two minutes. You may have to physically but gently re-sit a two year old several times in the two minutes but eventually they will get the idea. Make sure the time out is out of the fun area ie tv or other children playing. Once my girl started loving cartoons I just grounded her from cartoons and she hated this punishment but she was around 4 at the time.
2006-07-22 11:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids get it by 3, some by 2. You go one minute per year of age. For the toddlers a special blanket or spot on the floor is used instead of a small chair or stool. Start the stool in the corner routine at about 4.
2006-07-22 11:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think around 18 months the baby can start to understand the time out. One minute for each year is what I've heard said by many experts. I guess that's about all the attention span the children have, and beyond that they wouldn't understand. My 13 month old is not put on timeouts yet, but she definitely knows what's going on when I tel her "no" and remove her from the situation.
2006-07-22 12:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2-3 When they start to understand why you're angry. But remember that for a young child a short time can seem like an eternity. I wouldn't suggest more than 5 minutes.
2006-07-22 11:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Spike Spiegel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Nanny book is a good resource and she tell you some techniques for time out. I am work but if I had the book at hand I would tell you what her technique was.
2006-07-22 11:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by Brobe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out teaches nothing. it makes your child chemicalls depresssed and renders them lazy and fat like the rest of the people who do that. if you want to teach your child somthing teach them that there is no such thing as "easy" punishment and that all regretable actions will end with strict punishment. nobodys going to say "you killed somone, now its time for time out." they are going to beat you over the head and put you onto the electric chair. if you teach your children with "time out" then you are leading them under a false life, in a dream world. wake up smell the roses and teach your kids the right way
2006-07-22 11:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by waffleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A.S.A.P. because the sooner the batter my mom says. You need to put fear in there hearts now while they are small so they know that when we are out in public you will get your but spanked if you even decide to cut up on mommy or daddy out in public. The Bible says if you spare the rode you spoil the child so its up to you as a parent to decide on what you are going to do.
2006-07-22 11:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by woman of virtue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you spanking your children?
It's not only immediate, but doesn't require you to stand around re-seating the kid in time-out for what could wind up being half an hour.
Time-outs give the kid the (correct!) impression that the world revolves around them and their misbehavior.
A swat on the butt simply gives them an impression. And, it works.
2006-07-22 11:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋