ok well im 21 and he is 38, we have been together for nearly 2yrs though its a bit rocky. he has 2 kids that are 17 and 18. would love to hear peoples views!!
2006-07-22 04:24:54 · 23 answers · asked by lz_baxter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen I don't want to come off sounding like your mother or anything but,
NO.. it won't work his children are one reason, the other being more important; you are too young, you still have so many things to discover about yourself, this will be nothing more then an experience, he might as well got with one of his own kids, so that makes him Mr. wrong already.
Listen 21, you have got to give your self room to grow and settling down with an older guy isn't going to do it, go to school, meet new and young people of your own age group get into you, before dealing with someone that can be controlling and manipulative. By him being so much older he knows things and can easily move you around with his level of maturity or lack there of. please give your self a chance to explore all of the possibilities that your young life has to offer.
2006-07-22 04:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 53, He's 64, We have been married 32 years now. I was 18 when we 1st met. He had 3 boys. Everyone has their ups and downs. Nothing is perfect, but if you work together and don't fight about money issues, the kids, you'll do great.. If the arguments gets to heated one of you leave, to let things cool down. Never call each other names, those you can not take back. Treat the relationship as 50/50.
2006-07-22 04:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your maturity level. Anything can work out if you're willing to work at it. His children are not that much younger than yourself. Are you willing to handle what comes with the territory? You've been with him for 2 years, so you have an idea. But 20 years from now when you are 41 and he is 58, will you still feel the same? Actually, you'll be catching up to him by then.
2006-07-22 04:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lz, whether it will work or not depends on both of you, and you in particular. Let me tell you that there's no perfect relationship under the sun. If anyone has been telling you all the kinda stories you hear in the novels or watch in the films about being smooth always for ever - it's a deceptions, just to sell their products. But if you truly love him and believe sincerely in your mind that he loves you, the issue of his children should be secondary. You have your lives to live as a couple and they have theirs to live too. Very soon the two of them will soon leave you alone when they start their own families too. Best wishes.
2006-07-22 04:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you get along well and love and understand each other. You are the one that probably would want more fun so you may get bored when you realize you gotta go out with his kids to have fun (clubing, etc-not sure if you are into it).Normally men at 38 is pretty set in his ways.But you've been with him 2 years now and you can judge your situation the best.
2006-07-22 04:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the age, it's the commitment. I know a couple 20 years apart -- they're now in their 50's and 70's and are still satisfyingly married. On the other hand, some people's relationships end after a trial or two.
2006-07-22 04:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by puppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a saying that you should never date anyone younger than half your age plus 7
so a 38 year old should not date younger than 26
that said, his kids are almost as old as you. im sure they will resent having their dads girlfriend young enough to be their sister.
you also said the relationship was a bit rocky.
i just think that this relationship will not work out in the long run and you should get out while you still can!
2006-07-22 04:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. You have to kind of take a step back and see if this guy is really worth it. I know you are an adult, but you are young and there ae plenty of other people for you to meet in the world. You also have to ask yourself why this guy is attracted to a woman your age when he has kids only a few years younger than you are. kinda creepy if you ask me. would he let his 18 year old date a 40year old? anyway, you seem like you would be taking alot of baggage from this guy, and you seem too young to be doing that.
2006-07-22 04:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by gallow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well how does his kids feel about your relationship? It would seem to me that it would weird them out a bit.
It really depends how you feel. The fact that you're asking is saying that you have your doubts about your relationship. You're still young and there are alot of guys out there so don't be afraid to get out of a relationship. But if you truely love this guy, age really don't matter. If you really love him and really want to be with him you should work on it. As long as you're both happy it'll work out.
2006-07-22 04:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by tink13_8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would if u both really love each other u just got to think what would happend in the future ask ur self a questions do a want to get married at the age of 21 and age dosent matter
2006-07-22 04:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by andrea_lara92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋