i am low on confidence at the moment and would like some advice on what i could take up to help me improve my confidence and meet people. i am a very quiet person so want something that will bring me out of myself and help meet someone.
2006-07-22 03:08:44 · 14 answers · asked by shylfcfan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive had times like that too, what I do is take a piece of paper and right down all the good stuff i can do that no one else can do....even if someone else can do it to still right it down....then right all the bad stuff you wish you could make better and reflect on them, is it really that important, i mean lots of people have stuff they wish they could change.....about what you were saying about being quiet, you will meet tons of people like that as you go through your life....this time instead of being the "quiet one" strike up a convo with them, who know, people might think of you as outgoing
2006-07-22 03:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by SJ9867 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First realise that being quiet and not a great meeter of people is not a weakness. ( quiet people are generally more sensitive, understanding, better listeners, more caring etc) It is the way you are and perfect. Many people will find this very atttractive. Thinking you should be different to the way you are is the problem resulting in low confidence. realise that the way you are is the way you are. The right person and persons will meet you and love you for this.
2006-07-22 11:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that. I joined a sport and that helped but not enough. What I learned was to start acting confident in situations. Act like a leader. You will make mistakes, but for some reason people foreget these mistakes. Just kept acting confident and you will become confident. Also, don't think so much when you go talk to someone. Once I started to stop thinking so much, I made a lot more friends. You may say something dumb to them, but the fact that you said something means more than what you said. Just don't make what you are saying offensive
2006-07-22 10:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change. Most people are bold and confident when they can't be seen or if they are in disguise; When they are not themselves. Buy a new dress that may be eye catching, but one you are not known for wearing all the time. Get a new hair style that might totally revamp your look. Then if that doesn't work hang around a couple of ugly girls you'll be sure to get the most attention (smile).
2006-07-22 10:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take up a class at your local college.... there are courses all year round and it's a great way to meet people and learn something new :-) There's even public speaking classes, so people that feel the same way as you will be there so you can support each other. This is what one of my friends done and it really helped
2006-07-22 10:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by grandma punk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time around people who are not shy or introverted...I'm both of those things and tend to gravitate toward outgoing/extroverted types...that helps me "come out of my shell" a lot...
Smile when you see people in public...you'll be surprised how a returned smile can make you feel...speak to the cashier at the store or your waiter/waitress, even if just to say "how's your day going?" Getting used to talking to people like that, makes it easier to speak to others in more social situations...
Baby steps...do what you are comfortable with (or at least not terrified to do) and you'll find you'll become more and more okay with it...next thing ya know, you'll be chatting up the person you see in the supermarket that you are attracted to...
Good luck!
2006-07-22 10:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a job, find a job that you enjoy, with a team of people who are friendly and happy. If your in a job that your good at you'll feel better about yourself as team members and managers will talk with you, and they'll probably want to learn off you or you off them. Mixing with new people and learning new things all helps with confidence. Plus you get paid for it...
2006-07-22 10:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Katy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is a great attribute to a personality. Don't give it up mate.
I'm shy myself and through that i have no problem attracting attention off females as there curiosty gets the better of them.
2006-07-22 10:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think back how many people in your life have complimented you? weather it be family, friends, or a complete stranger. i was once told by a male aquaintance that i needed to smile more because a natrual smile was the most attractive thing about me, and when i was happy it lit up my face. smile pretty sweetheart if for no other reason than someone asked you to.
2006-07-22 10:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by marykycjane27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take up a sport where you are in a team atmosphere or some type of hobby. you can do courses in public speaking which do help boost your confidence. gl im sure you can do it.
2006-07-22 10:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋