my ex who i split up with becus of my stressful situation and i dumped him and sed hurtful stuf. now saying he doesnt know whether he wnats me or in what way saying he is confused and feels safe at the distance he is now because he feels he cant have his heart torn ag. still finds me v. attractive and fancies me and says he cares for me he says when he thinks about what i did last month he doesnt feel he loves me but when he takes that month away he loves me more than anything in the world. i asked him if he wanted to cutit off completely and he sed we know so much about each other he could never do that. he sed he wants to foget the month of hell but doesnt know whether he can at . i told him i want to work at the relationship and he said he camt at the moment. he saying he is scared of this happening again and that i have driven him to a place where he wont get hurt he feels safe there. hes got stress at work. he saying he cant offer me what i wnat at the moment. have i lost him?
2006-07-22 03:05:37 · 6 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I say you haven't lost him but do give him some space and time and he will come around, I don't know what happened but you do and that should help you with this. Good luck.
2006-07-22 03:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worth the effort, when a man's not sure what he wants..forget it! It will happen over and over again,and nobody deserves that, when things go wrong one time, hardly can turn out right for seconds.....
If he loves you as he says,he needs to get his act together and act like a man....we can't ;,just because we've been hurt , predict the rest of relationships or people are going to be the same....there's a risk and we have to take it.....been there, done that..
2006-07-22 10:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by maru_artmarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some time. It seems like he is being open and honest about how he feels. Have some time out from each other and before he comes back, ie, if he does come back, get some help on dealing with stress, because if you stress out again, you don't want to do that to him again do you.
2006-07-22 10:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by vzhnri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly needs to take time off and regroup from the relationship then step back and let him. Pressuring him will just drive him further away.
But, if he is taking this time off to fool around a little with someone else, then move on. It's over.
2006-07-22 10:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so,like he said it's obvious he has alot on his plate as well.Just give him some time just from what you are saying I can tell he cares for you as well.He knows your number if he wants to talk to you,don't pressure him,give him his space and just wait.I think this relationship can be saved.
2006-07-22 10:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Move on.
2006-07-22 10:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋