Honouring your fathers memory?

Question

Hello,

People my father died when I was a young child it's been over 20 years since his death and I'm wondering if you can recommend something I can do for when the 25th year of his passing comes?

We did not have much time together but in the time that we had he was the best dad in the world, kinda influenced me to always put people before myself and be kind and caring!!

Thanks,
All opinions appreciated!!

Answer 1

Why are you waiting for the 25th anniversary? Do something now. First, make numerous paper boats with candles in them (or you can buy them, because I suppose they're somewhat cheap). Then, you should congregrate all your friends and family near a river (perhaps one that your father liked) at night. Then, all the relatives and people who knew him, along with those who didn't, should light the candles, say a prayer, and then release them on your signal. This is good on two levels: it is not only a luminaria memorial for your father, but it is also a demonstration of how your father lives on. He lives on not only through the fiery light of the candles and the lit-up river, but also through you. You're his son. You showed your responsibility and followed in his manly footsteps by leading this memorial. Be proud. Your father is remembered in a particularly special way that none of the guests will forget.

Note: Although this may look like you're going out of your way, I think that's what your father deserves. Don't be cliche, plant a tree, and be like "Oh well, that's done." Follow my suggestion. It will help.

Answer 2

Hello, again. The idea of planting a tree in his honour is a very kind and caring thing to do. I would have you do that if it appeals to you. More to the Spirit of your father's heart will be to help others in some significant way. Setting that one up may take a minute, but keep it in the back of your mind as a project for when the channel opens and you can underwrite (finance) it later. Your father would be so proud of you for connecting to others, especially total strangers, in a way that would put food in their stomachs, a roof over their heads and a sense of safety. We have shelters for the homeless and street people here in Portland, Maine, U.S.A. I have brought clothing there and it is gratifying to see row after row of clothing, shoes, winter coats, sweaters, socks, shirts, everything - all waiting there, free, for anyone in need. Street people and homeless people can come into Preble Street Resource Center in Portland, Maine, and get a hot meal, clothing, counseling and all kinds of help, free. Something of this nature, even if you can't do it solo or single-handedly, if you could drop by a local agency of this sort where you are and become an active member of the team who helps people, that would be a good beginning in honouring your father's Spirit. It would also be a lot of work, make no mistake about it, so you would have to give some serious thought beforehand about making a kind of special committment to sticking with it when they might need you to volunteer and you "might not feel like it" &c. All of the volunteer work I have done over the years only shows me how much it is needed - to help others, especially the complete strangers, who are your extended world family to which we all belong. You are already thinking along these lines, so just proceed the way you are going. Often you will meet particular individuals who will hold the door open for you so you can "connect." I believe the universe will always notice anyone who is reaching out to others, and I offer my own life as an example. I am sending this to you with the hopes you will not choose one thing over another to honour your father, but decide to do more than one thing that will bring honour to your own name as his son. It is a truly noble thing you are thinking about, and I am pleased to know someone who thinks along these lines, and not only of himself. Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother... isn't that somewhere in the Bible? It is always a pleasure to speak with you, East Bay Punk, and I wish you all the success in the world, as with any interest or project you may be pursuing. And at some point I am looking for a positive report on the copyright issue. Please have a pleasant weekend, now. Sent with care and respect from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A.

Answer 3

Was there anything you and your Dad did together like fishing for example? If so, perhaps you and some close family and friends could do that again in remembrance of him. Other than that, have a get-together with good friends of his and family and make a speech over dinner about what he taught you in the short time you two spent together, how he has influenced your life today and how you'll always remember and love him.
Best wishes.

Answer 4

Do something which continues his legacy, something which carries his influence to the next generation, and the next. The tree and the bench are good, but I like the set-up-a-charity idea because that really engages people in promoting the values you love about your dad.

You could also commission an album of songs in his memory, or something like that, and let the proceeds go to an already existing charity that he would support.

Answer 5

My father died when I was 13 - that was 16 years ago.

I think the best we can do to is to do what he would consider the right thing.

Do your best in following his believes, act in a way he would have found nice.

Example: My father an my mother had 8 children - and to be friendly to other people, to help them selflessly - that was important to them.

The best thing to honour those who've left us is to do something they would have loved to see you doing it :-)

I think the greatest honour one can do his father is to do what he would liked you to do.

What was important to him? Was he religious? Did he love nature? Is there anything he really loved?

I would do something quiet - not for the others, only for my Dad to see.

For me it is the same - he gave me a lot, even if he had to go too early. But the love of your father - and my father's love for me - will always be with us.

The best we can do is to speak highly of them and try to do what they would have liked us to.

I think I would go the graveyard - or to a church - and speak with him. Thank him for everything good he gave you.

Answer 6

A few suggestions: if he passed on from a disease, maybe donating money on that day to a foundation for that affliction could help. If he died of natural causes, maybe setup some sort of college fund in his name.

Though, for something from the heart, I would gather up members of your family and any of his old friends, go to a local pub and just celebrate his life and everyone's life he touched. It is amazing what stories can come out of a day like that.

Answer 7

If you have the money you can make a donation in his name to some worthy cause. If it is a medical building, a habitat being built at the zoo, or anything that benefits people, when you make a donation in their name a plaque is also put up and it would say in memory of then your father's name

Answer 8

is hard time when u lose a parent, i feel for u, no matter how many years go by, we still miss them... my dad is sick and he will be leaving me soon enough, i cherrish every day i can talking with him as we r so far away...my mum passed 11 yrs ago last week, i lit an angel candle in her memory and played her favorite song (slim dusty...lol) i have tree planted for her, and put flowers on her grave every year(she died on her 60th b'day) but the most memorable thing i ever did in her honour was to write a poem for her and had it published, it could have been made into song lyrics, if i knew how, but the poem was inspired of her essence, same as i will do for my dad, my mum was the most caring person i ever knew, her heart is same as my heart, thus she inspired my yahoo nics...lol...but my poem will be read by millions and as a memory i cant be prouder to say life goes on, but ur memories stay in ur heart... tc : )

Answer 9

Make a scrapbook of your life with him.Put in it all the pictures,letters,everything that reminds you of him.At the end put his memorial paper.Now you have his memory at a arms reach whenever you want to just pick up this book to remember him.And you have already given him much honor by saying many good things about him for so many people to read.Im sure he would be very proud of the man you have turned out to be.,Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 10

have a big party with all his old friend and just shout cheers to him from earth also encourage speech's ask people what there might have learnt from your dad get to know people better thought your father and just be merry and hear some of the old story from his friend there can always be good