I'm a 13 year old girl, and lately I've made freinds with a school mate who's a year older than me. A friend of mine has a huge crush on her since she has tom-boyish good-looks. I liked her always, but yesterday we went swimming, and I could not stop myself frome thinking-"she is very sexy".
I myself am tom-boyish, and am having trouble adjusting to the fact that I might be falling for her...
While all this is occuring, I want our friendship to grow....while I know that it's just plain infatuation, I also wish to be closer to her...
so my questions-
1. Is this kinda infatuation okay, bcoz this is the first tym I may be having a crush on a girl?
2.While my crush will get off soon, how do I get closer to her-be more than school mates?
2006-07-22 02:02:03 · 13 answers · asked by Heart-in-tatters 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At your age your sexual orientation is not well defined. You could be homosexual, bisexual or wind up liking boys, Take it easy in this relationship.
2006-07-22 02:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by ringocox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have already mentioned that its plain infatuation, then so be it. You are at an age where you are trying to find an identity. Its normal for a girl to like another girl. This is a just a passing phase, and its pretty obvious you admire the girl, her looks and you could be secretly wishing you could be just like her. Go on and be friends with her, best friend if possible, thats all. Try mixing with the opposite sex as well and very soon you'll realise its nothing but a crush.
2006-07-22 09:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This age is a very tough age.
You are feeling new emotions and feelings all over the place.
One second you might feel like laughing while the very next you might feel like crying.
I believe it to be normal to have thoughts that are confussing.
We all have gone through it. Dont allow anyone to lable you
and be very careful who you talk to about it. This may pass.
Talk to someone you really trust and admire and be willing to listen fully . You are too young to get set in a certain lifestyle no matter what that lifestyle is. You have your whole life ahead of you.
What you are feeling could be confussed feelings of admiration , or perhaps you see qualities in her that you wish you had. Which you may infact have those qualities you just might have not discovered them yet. Take time to grow . You will go through alot more changes before you become an adult.
2006-07-22 09:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very confused because you say 'will my crush get off soon' and then you say 'how do I get closer to her'? Maybe you should talk to your mother about the feelings that your having. If you can't try to be just friends with the girl, be school mates and do the things you enjoy together...Good luck
2006-07-22 09:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate to say that you may be a homosexual, but the other possibility is this. Maybe you just admire her so much. You like her because you want to be like her. Remember she is older than you and u think she's an attractive girl right ? Maybe you just want to be like her. You're a little young to get too worried about this. I wouldn't worry at all. You're not gay
2006-07-22 09:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by REDSOX847 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parent(s) and figure out what's going on with you. You're only 13, it's a little early to be worried about any relationships or making life changing decisions.
2006-07-22 09:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of couse this is normal. Everyone gets confused about this at one point or another. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, whether you turn out to be homosexual or hederosexual.
Aww...that's sweet. try talking more to her, find out what you have in common, and most importantly, try to find out if she likes girls too. It would be pretty embarrassing if she didn't and you tried to ask her out or something.
2006-07-22 09:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) It's normal. Do you think she has feelings for you? If she doesn't it might hurt your friendship with her if you tell her how you feel. Tread lightly, but follow your heart. (2) As for becoming closer I would say just start hanging out with her more.
2006-07-22 09:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to wonder these things at your age. You body and hormones are rapidly changing everday. Just be her friend.
2006-07-22 09:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you are 18. you and her (or someone else) can make rational decisions. you are too young to act on a "crush."
2006-07-22 09:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋