How do you make a 5 year-old understand no? When my aunt's came visiting for 2 months we had 2 baby-proof..

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..our lounge coz that's where most of our holiday-gathered ornaments are.

My answer: Talk infant language. If u threaten with spanking or confiscating privileges/amenities, they won't understand coz they can't do the same back to you. So u cud say, if u break my toy(nude wooden casts, Maasai warriors, marble frogs, porcelain dolls ) I'll break urs. Good idea?

Answer 1

At five years old they should understand no , and not be goin around breaking things. A five tear old is not by any means an infant and shouldn't be talked to as one. If the child is breaking things they should be punished in some way. Like putting them in time out or something.

Answer 2

First, if your Aunts aren't backing you up, it doesn't matter what you do, you'll just be the mean one. Don't talk infant language or baby talk ever! You say 'No' forcefully repeating as many times as needed. You can increase the tone and volume and if it doesn't seem to be working you take his hands away from the statuette firmly, looking him in the eyes and say "No!" again. It takes repetition but eventually they figure out the limits. This is something that the child should have already learned. When my grandson comes to visit, he's 11 months, he loves to push the buttons on the TV, he loves to pull paperwork off the desk and so on. At first saying No had to be backed up with firmly removing his hand from the object. It took 27 repetitions with the TV buttons, stubborn little cutie. But now, all I do is say NO and he sits down with a little pout and plays with something else. What helps is his parents use the same method. It's very effective, but you have to be on your toes and you have to be consistent.

Answer 3

Not a good idea at all.

To being with, "no" is one of the first words that children learn the meaning of. Every parent of 2 or 3 year olds know that "no" is one of their favourite words..and they use it correctly and in context!

And by 5 most kids understand very well what it means to lose privileges or possessions as a punishment.

Both my 7 year old, and my 4.5 year old (who has a severe speech/language problem) understand "no" and what losing something as a punishment means; the 7 year old was very aware of both at 5. They may not like this, but that is the point of punishment, isn't it?

Answer 4

If a kid doesnt know NO by five then your technique ISNT WORKING. generally a one year old understands the concept of no.

Dont threaten with anything, just explain what the consequence is of the behavior. "If you dont listen, and play nice you will be on time out" or "if you break things and act mean i will swat your butt" lay down the law before play time even begins, then the first time it happens, explain that when this happens you get time out,or a spanking, and then DO IT. then the child understands what no means.

Five is aweful incredibly old to be learning what no means.

Answer 5

First of all a 5 year old is not a baby. A child that age should know right from wrong by now. If you tell the child that certain things are off limits and then also tell the childs parents to watch their child to make sure that it doesn't break anything and stay out of areas that it doesn't belong.

Answer 6

This is no joke!

Sign language.

Nothing elaborate but use the simple signals he has already seen and perhaps you can show him more of your own.

Think like a mime.

It works so well your family and friends will think you are telepathic for a second, then they will catch on too.

The baby will be so much happier to have someone to communicate with too.

Good Luck!

Oh and spanking is NOT for pain, it is for noise to get a child's attention.

Know your boundaries, never threaten to do something you may not be able to do. "If you do that again I will throw water up your nose!" It won't hurt them ... much ... but they get the message that punishment is not pleasant even when it doesn't hurt. Usually you are too tall for them to do it to you too.

I do not recommend this but it has worked on older "brat" children.

Clap your hands near their head, but do not hit them. Do it weakly, in case they move into it, but loudly so they don't forget.

All of that stops when they begin to talk clearly.

Remember your childhood.

Answer 7

NO!! You need to put your child in time out and then ask your child to tell you why he thinks you put him in time out. You have to help you child discover appropriate behavior, and that inappropriate behavior is unacceptable, by letting your child experience appropriate discipline. What you are doing, the eye for an eye thing is anti productive. You do need to baby proof your home, kids dont have the maturity you have as an adult, and so the things you think are precious and valuable, you may want to keep out of his reach, until your child is old enough to get it. I have 7 kids, I know I wont have my fine china, and my other collectables out till my kids are out of my house & married, then what if I have grandkids?? Children are far more prescious than things, if you cant make that adjustment, then really think about the best way to manage all the additonal stress youre gonna have over STUFF, and how this is gonna affect your relationship with your child.

Answer 8

If the kid is 5 and doesn't know what no means then there's a serious problem there. My 1 year old even knows what no means and my 6 year old has been hearing it for 5 plus years, hates it, but knows and follows direction. So if you have to baby proof your house for a 5 year old get that kid some help.

Answer 9

For 100% sure training, it would probably require something like an electric fence. (Turned way down, of course!) It would be completely consistent, so there would be no communication or discipline required. The child would not see it as "something you are doing to him", but rather just the way the world works. They learn that REAL fast!

I think your idea stinks! You don't want to get in a toy-breaking contest with a baby. They would just see that as another game.

Answer 10

you could try it, but my children just did the retaliation thing back and forth . there wasn't a safe barbi or hot wheel miniature safe in the house. kids respond better to kindness, and they can empathize. if you say " please don't bother this, because it will make me very sad if it gets broken", they may leave it alone. don't however, make them mad. ask them too what they have that they would rather you didn't handle, adding that you like them and would not like to make them sad. mutual respect is important at any age.