I would like to know why behaviour of children changes?

Question

We have a girl, who is going to be 8 years next month. We have a son also who has just completed 2 years.

The problem is our daughter use to be very bright till 3-4 years ago. However, she has slowed down considerably and now, it seems, finds difficulty in concentrating. She had become quite stubborn as well, more recently. Although she talks a lot while in the home, her teacher says she is a quite girl in the school. She is spanked/scolded when she does something wrong, but complains sometimes as why her brother is not scolded that often.

How to bring her back on track? We have tried whatever we could like punishments, gifts, and other normal forms but to no avail.

By the way, she has been getting very good marks in the range of 80-95%. But our only worries are that her mother has to force her all the times for studies.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Is your house old, could be lead poisoning. Have her checked by a doctor. I have an 8 year old. He's constantly on the go and very demanding. Talks so much I often will tune him out. He gets angry with me. Although, he does excellent in school. Might just be the age. I would worry about her learning abilities if she is having difficulty learning. Talk to the pediatrician. Other than that, I think her behavior is normal for the age. They are busy! If school is going well too, i personally would say she's just like mine. I asked doc... he said you have a normal one. He is very much a procrastinator too. As long as your wife is not doing the homework for her. He is my baby so there was no extra attention taken away from him, as some might think it might be that. It's his age. Good luck!

Answer 3

First, explain to her that she is older and knows better than her brother and that's why she is scolded more.
Then, she could have a problem so check w/ a doctor if there are any brain malfunctions. She could just be a shy girl, I am like that to many people so it's not uncommon. Being stubborn is also a very likely characteristic to many children.

If all else fails try to see a counselor or maybe a psychiatrist about the problem.

Answer 4

Children's behaviour usually change around your daughter's age. And that is usually because of the influence that their friends have on them. Children want to fit in, so I guess that she's just trying to be like her friends. I worked in a summer camp for 2 years and I know how hard it is to get kids back on track, but it is possible. The best way of doing it is to talk to her, even if she's young, she'll understand. Oh, and please don't spank her!! And go with consequences instead of punishments. When she does something wrong, tell her right when you learn about it and make her think about it (ask her to write something about what she did and what she should have done, or make her do something that is linked with it...). Be careful with gifts, children tend to make associations ;)
Hope I helped!

Answer 5

u can take her to a psychologist- specialists to children- and check her out for Attention Deficit Disorder (reason she might not be concentrating) and Dyslexia. It's very possible that she might be having difficulties in keeping up with school and she doesn't know how to tell u and think that sthg is wrong with her while nthg is. don't punish her, never spank her (we live in the year of 2006, could be considered abuse)don't give her gifts BUT talk to her and make her feel safe and that she's being supported. really, take her to take the tests for ADD n Dyslexia.

Answer 6

Behavior changes like this, even without a drop in grades, could indicate some other sort of problem, learning disability or possibly even ADD. I would suggest that you have your daughter assessed by a school psychologist or a child psychologist and help her solve whatever is wrong.

Answer 7

see children can be very hurt from somethiong adolts seem to be just fine. she is problalby like that because she is sharing your love with her little brother and that is desturbing her. it can be ok if you show her more respect and more love not by buying anything. just go somewhere you tree only or make her wish come true before those on her brother...it will be all right if she just feel that she never actualy had to share you and that you love har just the same.
butit can be too something for example to be said on her which very much hurt her, her friends mabye or she have heard you saying somehing when you are angry. try my exaple and see would she change for a while. good luck! write me on [e-mail]

Answer 8

Don't punish her for being normal...All children go threw stages in their life! I am sure you and your wife did while growing up...I remember when I was only a child I would be very quite at school and let my meanness out when I got home. All children go threw stages in their life, that is perfectly normal...Don't look at you child when it is three and then at eight years old, she is growing up and you should be proud of here instead of punishing!

Answer 9

It seems like your daughter felt neglected and is seeking attention from your wife and you. Check yourselves, when your son was born, did you give him too much attention and neglected your daughter. Try talking to your daughter, and if need be send her to a child psychiatrist

Answer 10

Here is a link with parenting tips regarding behavior changes in children.

Answer 11

this shows she is feeling bad &lonely as she compareing herself with her brother.as on your part dopnt negelct her as she was feeling that you dont give her as inportance as earlierhve a good talk with her explain her ask what is her problem