If you are married, do you choose your wife over your mother?

Answer 1

u should never take sides of either one...be the middleman n solve the problems ur wife n mother has..this way the family stays united..once u take side the other would feel terrible n both this people are important..

Answer 2

I do my best to accommodate both...
However, My mom lives 6000 miles away, so on a daily basis I am more obliged in dealing with my wife and she is definitely my priority. When I visit my mom, about 2 weeks a year, she definitely moves up into the passenger seat during that time. I love both of these women and they are the two most important in my life the only time I can See this changing is when I have children. I think if problems between the 2 arise it is important to act as a good moderator. And try and avoid or solve problems that may come up between the 2, and always keep in mind that just because they don't get along doesn't mean I can't have them both in my life.

Answer 3

My Father always chose his mother over his wife, my mother put up with this for nearly 35 years of marriage, after his mother went into a nursing home and my father realized that his mother was not there to say things about his wife, he realized his wife is a good person and that she was right all along, he realized his wife was doing what was best for the family. But they wasted 35 years arguing on this subject. I married a man that hates his mother, but that in itself comes with it's own set of problems, so I feel, when a man leaves home, he leaves the woman that gave him life, his mother, to go and be married with a woman that will now be his family and one day she will be a mother, so together he and his wife with continue the family line, one day his child will leave to start his own family. It should always be spouse first, even if the mother is right, do not humiliate your spouse in front of your mother, always stand by your spouse and discuss it in private. It is the best way for a peaceful life.

Answer 4

My wife says 'Yes you do'.

If you want a romantic dinner, watch a late night movie, go for holiday, make love/wild sex and go partying then you choose yr wife.

If you want home cooked food, someone to do your laundry, pamper over you and always take your side then you choose yr mother.

Joking aside....if there is a conflict between the 2 grown up women then both are right and wrong. So you must become the mediator and reach a compromise between them. One good way is you yourself become a scapegoat and become the 'enemy'. When the 2 women have a common 'enemy' they become friends. Another way is you buy nice gifts to both and say its from the other with apologies - trick is to get them to be calm and not annoyed with each other :)

Answer 5

Yes! A man is to leave his mother and father and cleave unto his wife! The two are to be joined as one. If he is joined with his wife..then he HAS to choose his wife over his mother! Nuff said!

Answer 6

There shouldn't have to be an ultimatum. Most Mothers and their sons have always had a special bond regardless of whom is in the right. Mothers Will always defend their son/sons. Out of guilt the son may defend his mother causing a rift between himself and his partner which doesn't seem to be fair. I'm sure they have a hard time as well dealing with it, they must feel that they are being pulled in two different directions.

Answer 7

Good question, but what is the situation? Your wife wants to go to DisneyWorld, but your mom wants to look for nursing homes? Are the two women stuck on a bridge that's about to collapse and you only have time to save one of them so who do you choose?

Being married doesn't mean you automatically switch all allegiances to the spouse. It all depends on situation and who is right or should have "right of way"

Answer 8

my spouse and my mother can not stand one another. I will not go to my moms when my spouse is off work and will only visit my mom when it is just me. When i said I DO my world and my focus became my new life. Parents are supposed to raise their children support their decisions and let them go so they can then raise their own kids. if you have to decide between the two really give it attention and thought. You have to stand up for yourself before you can stand up for anyone else. take it seriously and talk to your wife and your mother seperatly and give it time. you can never replace your mom or the love of your life. there is a happy medium you just have to find it.

Answer 9

I would never choose my mother over my husband or my husband over my mother if they don't get along and they both love you then they should come to a find even grounds and you wouldn't have to choose.

Answer 10

It is a common sense answer. I will choose my mother over my wife. Because you can only have one mother but you can look for many wives if you wish. Hopefully you can accept my answer.