She is a loving happy gorgouse little girl who turned 1 last week but she drives me insane she touches breaks and destroys everything in sight. telling her no, tapping her hand and removing her from the area dosnt work she just laughs and carrys on doing it. what can i do as she is still to young for methods like the naughty step.
2006-07-21 23:30:18 · 16 answers · asked by pinklady11 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Be patient. RIght now her job is to explore and learn about the world. Your job is to set limits and keep her safe.
Some books you might check out -
Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower
The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears
Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Kurcinka (sp?)
Don't punish her (naughty step) but instead TEACH her. Discipline actually means TEACHING.
If there is something that it would break your heart if she destroyed it, don't leave it where she can get into it.
Redirect her if she goes after something she shouldn't have. Offer her another toy or distract her by pointing out something else interesting. If she gets ahold of something she shouldn't have, act like she intended to give it to you and say, "Oh! Thank you!" as you take it away from her. OR trade her something that she can have for what she isn't supposed to have.
Don't use the word "no" all the time. Use other words like "hot!" or "owie!" or "fragile" or "not for babies" or "sharp!" or "gentle touches." When we use "no" all the time it begins to mean nothing to them.
2006-07-22 01:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest putting things that are breakable out of her reach, until she understands a little better the word no. and the tap on the hand. In other words, make your place child proof to the best of your ability. there are baby gates, which you can also install, blocking the rooms you don't want her to go into. If she has her own room, and you need a break, then put a baby gate up so she can't get into the rest of the rooms. Make sure there are plenty of unbreakable toys like Fisher& Price toys, which help her to learn, and develop her motor skills. I don't recemend that you keep her in there on a constant basis however. spending an hour or two in her room playing can't hurt her, and you can check on her often, and let her know that you're there, so she knows she's not forgotten about. Also spend some time everyday playing what you know she likes to do. Her nap everyday is probably the only real rest you'll get, so I would suggest lying down while she naps, or getting things done you want to do , without distraction, such a hobby, or some work around the house you haven't had time to do.
2006-07-22 00:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,if you feel tired or angry at your kid,I suggest you take some vitamins.I had the same problem and it worked.
About your child:She is in the age of exploring the life.Do not put anything danderous or fragile near her.Buy her some colorfull toys and put them around the house.If you can make your house in a situation that you do not have to tell her lots od Do (s) and Do n'ts,life will be happier for both of you.
Play with her as much as she wants.
2006-07-21 23:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a toy box in the living room that she can empty at her leisure.
She's just exploring, that's all. Raising our daughter, we put breakable items up out of her reach. But, we never had to put the latches on the cupboards & drawers, because she had her toy box to keep her occupied.
She'd start in on that box, dig something out, monkey with it, toss it aside, then dig something else out.
I've got a picture of her sitting in front of her over-turned toy box, and the toys spreading out from there clear across the living room.
It looks like a little tornado hit our room, with our daughter right in the middle of it.
It's one of our favorite pictures.
p.s. Do as many activities with your daughter that you can. It builds a bond between you two, and keeps her occupied.
2006-07-22 02:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use the "naughty step" too...for my four older children. For my one year olds I've always used the crib or play pen. If undesired behavior occurs a sharp no followed by time in "jail".
2006-07-22 03:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by mymadsky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur daughter is still an infant..and infants are to be tolerated with whatever they do..becoz doing things repeatedly (annoying or not in ur part) is their way of learning..let ur daughter do what gives her pleasure while providing her safety and security..becoz that is the best. But when ur child turns to toddler (age 2-3) that is the time you try to disciple her..u can start giving her toilet training and what so ever..just be patient with ur daughter at this point of tym..she's just learning to adopt and to understand things around her..
2006-07-21 23:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by nich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first baby proof the house, put up or pack up anything you don't want broke. then try reading to her play with her show her what else she can do with her time and keep telling her things like "this is your book" " this is your toy"" this is mommy" she won't get it at first but eventually she well. i gave my daughter a drawer in my desk so that she could put her stuff in thier. it took about a week before she realized that mommy won't touch her drawer and she is not to touch mommys drawers.
2006-07-22 03:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
children try to explore their environment by touch. The start to truly understand no around 3 years old
2006-07-22 17:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's exploring and learning. Put breakable items up and let her do what she's meant to do, LEARN!!! Hand tapping is not effective, it's mean in my eyes.
2006-07-21 23:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tortured Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a hook up on the wall and put her on on it. Then tell her that she cant break anything from up there! She`ll soon learn!
2006-07-21 23:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋