I'm 17 & I've been dating this 16 year old girl & recently her parents found out that we've been dating & they got really mad because they don't like her dating so they took her phone & internet away & grounded her too & she can never talk 2 me ever again, it's been a week since I last talked 2 her & i really miss her a lot, she's all i think about...I really love her & she means everything 2 me but I'm confused about what to do..should I stay with her or do the right thing by the parents & leave?
2006-07-21 20:57:59 · 21 answers · asked by Lucas B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Children your age do as they please anyway, her parents should know that :-). Anyway I think if she means that much to you, fight for her. Show her parents that you are mature and ask to speak with them, explain to them that you mean not to harm their child in anyway, ask of them what, or how they would like you to conduct the relationship, (if they allow you to continue to see your girl), ask them to set the ground rules, i.e. what time she needs to be in, not going out on a school day (if still at school) etc etc. Ask them to voice their concerns and put their minds at rest. Show them that you are a responsible person and truly want whats best for everyone speak to them, I find communication can work wonders. I don't know if it will help at all but it's worth a try. If it doesn't I would leave it, cos it will only cause pain for you and your girlfriend, but I feel the responsible person approach may well work for you. All the best.
2006-07-21 21:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do the right thing and leave. You'll only cause her more problems by sticking around. If you two truly do love each other, then she will be be there for you (and vice versa) when her parents come around or she's a bit older. 16 is a bit young to get deeply into a relationship, anyway. Be patient, you two will be together soon enough again. If you care for her as much as you say you do, then you'll walk away right now and wait for her. ♥
2006-07-21 21:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by save_up_your_tears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your so young and you got so many years ahead of you for love.The girl is just 16 she has 2 years till she is 18 in 2 years your mind is going to change so much i think its best to just move on unless you love this girl that much then hang on.Maybe if you stay away or try and talk to her parents that might earn you some respect with them and maybe you have another chance but thats up to you if you think its worth trying to do.You know her parents better than i do and you know what to expect .Your young and if this dont pan out i promise you will love again and again ohh boy your just starting out....good luck
2006-07-21 21:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you see her at school, work, etc? Unless you're engaged in some criminal activity, her parents are messed up if they try to prevent you from speaking to her in these situations. Never let someone go because of what a third party wants to play tough guy and forbid it! I have nothing against her parents decision of not allowing her to date @ 16, she is their child and their responsibility. Even if they have full trust in her, mistakes happen, poor judgement, bad or poor influences, and neither one of you are ready to raise a child. However, I don't agree with them not allowing you to speak to her ever again! When she's 18, it's completely out of their hands legally anyway!
If you really care and do like each other, don't allow them to take her out of your life. I'm not saying to go behind their backs and date her, sneak into her house, her out the house, etc. Being alone with her is not even on the same page as talking on the phone, in public, supervised, etc! When she turns 18 or 17 if her parents allow it, resume taking her out on dates.
2006-07-21 21:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by DaBigDawwg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a lot of options here, you could go old school and see her with a chaperon, her mother or something. You are both to young to be really in love, infatuation is very nice but it's not really in love. Stay a kid, find a way you can be in her life with her parents consent and wait for the really in love thing later on, maybe when your not a kid anymore.
2006-07-21 21:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait for her but i would set a time to when to stop
maybe try sending her a letter with out her parents knowing.
but i think after a while it is better to move on because it looks like if the two of you keep going at the end a lot of people will get hurt..
i do feel sorry for you .. but sometimes parents do know whats best for there children.. if the two of you are meant to be then nothing can stop the two of you being together..
2006-07-21 21:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by yen12rs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are young because your sense of time is very short. However, realize that she's a minor like yourself, and you should respect her parent's wishes.
If you're smart, you'll wait until you are both older and more responsible about making decisions that can affect your life for the long term.
Do the right thing and you'll respect yourself and you might find yourself earning the respect of her parents down the road and the girl herself.
Communicate with the parents that you respect their decision if you want.
2006-07-21 21:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should respect her parents wishes and leave her alone for now, if it is meant to be you will see her again. Another thing you said you were 17, you need to focus more on your education and plans for the future so you can have something other than your love to offer. good luck!
2006-07-21 21:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by tinabee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still too young and chances are her parent think too. Concentrate on your studies. If you were really meant for each other, you will find yourselves together in the future when you have already financially independent and established.
2006-07-21 21:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both are just kid.........and whatever the girls parents did is right coz they are protecting the kid. its not that you are bad or doing something wrong. everything has to be on time. you are dating a girl its all right but what do you do? nothing.....hmmmm. you dont earn you are just studying may. First you should study hard and make your career rather than wasting your time and same advice to your freind.once you are independent nonone is going to stop yu fron doing anything..
making your career shud be your priority rather than wastinfg your time on silly things..
once you both are matured and indepent you can decide on going furthur....
speak to her parents and aske them to release the girl from limitation and make them assured that your are not going to do any harm to girl and then you both decide on making your career..........and be friends to each other.......
all the best and god bless you both
2006-07-21 21:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Pearl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋