But I hardly ever do it to him in very rare occacions I have. Is that normal for him to want to do it to me so much though. Or is he trying to give me a message that I should be the same way to him, honestly I am confused on this one. in my culture women are not supposed to perform oral sex on men even if its your husband or else you are like a prostitute. I am half mexican 1/2 german but lived in Mexico most of my life. at the same time I am not used to doing it, and I feel he might feel a little left out when we make love. Just confused here do you guys think he is OK with me not performing oral s. on him? He seems OK with the siatuation but also I want to be fair with him. And want him to know I really love him. What do you guys think am I worrying too much?
2006-07-21 20:55:12 · 19 answers · asked by Jessica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your lucky to have him do that, it is awesome! and you should do it to him, not everytime, but do it more for him, the two of you are together, and it seems he cares for you, and he is real patient, if you had sex with him, why can't you do this?
2006-07-21 21:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to tell him this. Just like you said here. Let him decide. If you truly don't like it, then don't do it. However, it sounds like your inhibitions come from messages you heard from other people. Make up your own mind. The simile to "prostitute" is inappropriate if you love your boyfriend. When a prostitute does it it's dirty because she performs such an intimate act on a stranger for money. When you do that to a man you love, and make him tremble with the lightest touch you can produce - it's a 'labor of love' in a sense. Not to mention, some women love the feeling of power - when you bring that big strong man of yours to his knees. Whatever you decide, good luck to you!
2006-07-21 21:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ms. Confused,
Your Bf has been very accomodating, to say the least. However, sexual preferences are in the realm of privacy and the decision of two individuals what they like or prefer to indulge or not to indulge in!...If you have an aversion to performing Oral Sex, you should put your point of view across, but occassionally, give in or you risk being labelled a prude....it ain't a crime or sin & ask your BF to voice his opinion on the issue...But yes, the answer to your question would not merit an asnwer , the reason...it's your call!
2006-07-21 21:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Spicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, You should NEVER do anything you are not comfortable with. You think that you may not like giving oral because he has slept with so many people, but do you have a problem with having vaginal sex with him? It is always nice to give if you are going to receive. You could always try it and see if you change your mind. And talking to your boyfriend will help A LOT. Communication is key and all that jazz. No one knows better how HE feels about it than himself. And if he would lose respect for you for anything you do, then maybe he is not the guy for you. But the only way to know is to ask. He may want to *try* it, but he shouldn't try to force you to do anything you dont want to do. If you want, to get used to it, you could do it with a flavored condom. Only take a little bit of him at first, else you will gag ... Tell him not to orgasm in your mouth at first (or at all) - lots of people don't like that and you shouldnt be forced to take it. i would try a little first, to see if you mind it IF you want to let him come in your mouth (eventually). take things slow and always remember, dont do anything you dont want to do.
2016-03-27 02:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering from which part of Mexico you come from in that oral sex is taboo... From your German part of culture we don't even need to talk!
But anyway.. Everything is ok that YOU think it is ok, independent from your culture's or your boyfriend's point of view.
I think if he's performing oral sex on you that's because he's enjoying it, and not to pass you any message!
But the best way would be to talk to him openly...
2006-07-21 21:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by branquelo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is fine, when its with two people who love one another but, NOT all the time!!! we ladies want to feel that closeness and intimacy with that special person. No, I do not knock oral sex, but add a little more, it should make him or her want you more!!!
2014-08-06 01:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by foxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one day he will resent you for not giving back. I don't want to disrespect your beliefs, but what would you do in his situation? Would you settle for it? I know plenty of Women who love oral sex, and a prostitute is not what they are....they just enjoy pleasing thier partner......isn't that what relationships are truly about, compromise and giving? To hell with what others think or say, it;s your realtionship!!!
2006-07-21 21:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by hee haw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying too much. He'll let you know if he wants more. Maybe he is culturally old school in the way you described. You could ask him. You will certainly get a more acurate answer than asking US !
2006-07-21 20:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like to try it on him. If yes, then go ahead and try it. Don't let your culture dictate what your lovemaking should go for as far as I know, they also do it. If you don't want to do it then just satisfy him on a different way. You can extend the foreplay or use toys that can turn him on. You won't know util you ask him or you try it...
2006-07-21 22:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by coolblueacid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're worrying too much. If he wanted it done to him more, he would tell you. If he loves doing it, why stop him? Take advantage of the situation as he gets pleasure out of pleasuring you.
2006-07-21 21:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by z1a2q3x4s5w6c7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋