I marriage to a guy who addict to computer games, internet and military. Our marriage was good for a year. One day, he told me that he was depressed a lot. He was not himself anymore since he married me. He want freedom and dont want to be marriage anymore. After he told me that, I was so sad and stressful. I was here with greencard and dont know anybody here. I got a good jobs and really need his support. But he was change after the day he told me he dont want to be marriage. He didn't hug me, kiss me like normal and left home before I came back from work everyday. I really dont know what I do. I pretend I was just the air, no commubication. He always did that when he want something but when he didn't get what he want. He is always acting wried. I love him so much. He brought me here to marriage him but when he dont want me he just throw me aways. I want to live here but if we divorce I would not able to live in US because of the greencard regulation. What could I do?
2006-07-21 19:57:11 · 11 answers · asked by Violet W 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
start looking for someone else right now...go out after work and have fun...if you are not bowing to his every need he may want you a little more...just because you are not from the us doesnt mean that he can treat you like crap...act like you dont care anymore and never tell him you want him or need him...men like women who are not needy...go out and get your own life he will want you then i guarantee it.....
2006-07-21 20:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by valerie 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is just no fair. I hate to say this but you married a real loser. OK, you can stay and let him leave if he is going to or you can leave and go back home and try immigrating again through normal channels. Or you can see if you can get him to stay will you until you can get your status changed or have enough time in to become a citizen. I hate to say this but I don't think you are going to get everything you want from this situation. I really do feel sorry for you. How about trying to talk to him and find out why he does not want to be married. If he is depressed see if he would be willing to see a Dr. for help. Good luck.
2016-03-27 02:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did you know him before you got married?
This is what happens when you marry a man you do not know.
If you want to stay in US, assume that you're a house-maid, not a wife. Your green card is your payment. Be nice all the time, do the housework, cook food. Stop saying "Do you still love me?" - it only makes him angry and makes you cry. Men hate talking about love, and hate girls who cry.
If you want him to love you, try to understand what he likes. Play his computer games, he will be happy to teach you. Look what made him happy when he was a kid. Meet his friends, make sure they like you.
You also need to improve your English. He can't love you if he can't undestand you.
2006-07-21 19:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer NOW. If your spouse deserts you have rights!!! You may not be in such bad shape legally as you think. My heart goes out to you though, it's a very difficult time to be abandoned by someone you love, I know. Some untasteful advice...If he's really being a jerk, try to gain his sympathy to at least help you get permanent residence. Good luck - John
2006-07-21 20:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm sorry to hear about that. I mean about your situation. Honestly, that's a hard question to answer, but I will try.
Umm...some people say things they don't mean. Maybe you did something terribly bad that made him mad. Just maybe.
Or maybe he just need time for himself, most guys can't take girls who breath on their shoulder every minute. So ask him if he still love you. Talk to him sincerely.
But hang in there...pray always.
2006-07-21 20:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by dewdropinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well perhaps try marriage counseling or asking him to seek counseling first then work on the marriage counseling. maybe trying discussing the situation with the ins or whomever is in charge of greencards.
2006-07-21 20:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I haven't a word of advise that would work in your situation. Since I was born in the USA and can't be forced to leave here, if it were me, I'd offer to help him pack so he could leave.
2006-07-22 00:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get married to me!! I'll give you lots of hugs and kisses everyday and we go to nice places together! Where are you from?
2006-07-21 20:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about your marriage, maybe check into a work visa
2006-07-21 20:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your sad situation.
I dont know what to advise.
2006-07-21 20:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋