My best friend, (I'm 17) and I already know that this is a bad start, is the person I have fallen in love with. She knows that I like her for more then a friend. We've had our ups and downs, but lately, it hasn't been good for her. Her ex-boyfriend, they broke up in December 05 and began talking and hanging again in June (friends with bene's), cheated on her again with the same women.
I've been trying to keep her mind off of him and to forget about him, so we've been hanging out a little more then the usual.
I have been the gentlemen all throughout, and I think she realizes. She's been attached to me lately (not a bad thing at all) and shes brought me dinner to my workplace (a lot) and she calls everynight to tell me goodnight and sweet dreams, blah blah blah.
I feel like we are friends, something more then friends, but then I feel like the rebound guy and then I feel like we are a couple and I'm not the rebound guy.
Am I the rebound? Or am I something more? Please Help!
2006-07-21 19:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I noticed many people said I need to talk to her and be honest... how do I break the ice?
2006-07-21 19:38:30 · update #1
Yes, you are the rebound guy, but you could transition into the main man if you end up having enough game. That's what it comes down to--you gotta beat the man to be the man.
2006-07-21 19:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by brian_hahn_32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through kinda the same thing man....except that there was a 3 month period where I didn't talk to the girl and we became each others worst enemy and shes still going out with the a**hole guy. Sorry for rambling off there...but anyways, in a situation like this, it seems like that you're the rebound guy but you're something more as well. As long as she realizes that you have been the gentleman the whole time and she knows that she won't get screwed over like last time, it should definately get you your something more that you have been hoping for. The calling you every night thing is definately a good sign that if you stick with what you're doing and have a bit of confidence, something more is guaranteed and even if you are the rebound guy now, you won't be later.
2006-07-22 02:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by z1a2q3x4s5w6c7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are helping her through a tough situation, and sometimes when you get attached it can seem like a rebound thing. If you two are best friends, it's probably not a rebound thing. I think you should tell her how you feel. She might be developing the same feelings for you.
2006-07-22 02:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the rebound. Because I have been in the same place to. She is attatched to you because being with you eases the pain that he ex is putting her through, mostly because she does not have to deal with the lonley aspect. Now I am not saying that it might not work, but she might wake up one day and discover that she wants to be single, and she is stronge enough to get by on her own. She will prob pull the "its not you, its me" crap.
2006-07-22 02:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's giving you a lot of attention...which might be a rebound, but she does special, unselfish things for you, which could be love. Give it some time. I think she's into you, but she needs some space to find herself again. Talk to her about it.
2006-07-22 02:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said I think it's something more..Good for you for being a gentleman where someone else would have used her
2006-07-22 02:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oww my brain..
well i think the best thing to do is talk to her. she cares for you at least so we dont know as friends or what. but she does care for you. i wish you and ur girl luck.
peace <3
2006-07-22 02:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by tessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her just be open & honest about how you feel and see where it goes
2006-07-22 02:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Leveler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋