i was too possesive and i have pushed her away i want her back?

Question

i am really missing her now i have learnt my lesson i really want her back how can i get her back

i did not physicly push her

Answer 1

Jealousy is good in small doses, and can actually be healthy fr a relationship, but lethal if it consumes a partner into being so possessive that the other party feels trapped and suffocated.
You need to realise all the things you made your girlfriend feel, whilst you were exhibiting this jealous possessive nature. She felt you didn't trust her firstly. Trust is a major part of any relationship, and if we don't have trust we really don't have anything. This would have left her feeling frustrated and resentful.
I will always remember what a friend of mine told me. He had been with his wife, had two children and divorced after four years. Their problem had been that he was trying to make them do all the same things together, practically trying to make them two halves of the same person. In theory this is romantic, but in opractice, it truly is devastating. For one, you were two different people before you met, who fell in love because you liked the traits the other person has. Secondly, freedom is very important. Someone should be with you and do things with you because they want to and NOT because they feel obliged.
I understand you miss your girlfriend, but hounding her, sending her flowers, telling her you love her, will all seem like an extension of your possessive behaviour towards her. She may be with someone else now, or she may be so hurt by your behaviour that she will take a long time to heal. I know that if my partner behaved overly possessive I wouldn't want to walk right back into the relationship because it is almost guarenteed to happen again, unless YOU do something about it.
The ball is in your court. I strongly suggest going to talk to someone, being proactive will show everyone around you that you are willing to change and you have identified and been man enough to accept you have a problem. Don't let this affect all the relationships you have in the future, because they will be over before they even begin. There could be an obvious route to your behaviour, perhaps related to self esteem? Did you feel you weren't worthy of your girlfriend? Were you scared every moment of every day of losing her? You need to halt the thought processes that cause you to be possessive, to be jealous, and concentrate on this and NOT getting your girlfriend back.
You may have to accept it is over, and move on, knowing that you have been to see someone, proving you are very serious about changing, and you might meet someone else who you can have an equal, peaceful relationship with.
If after you have been to talk to someone, you feel that your girlfriend might give you another try, I would suggest you meet up with her. A neutral place, perhaps a cafe. Just say that you want to be friends, and that you want her to know you have learnt from your relationship, identified you were possessive and you want her to know you are very sorry. Thats it. You may not be able to ressurect the relationship, but you will very likely be able to mend your friendship with this girl.
Hope this helps!

Answer 2

first decide, you want her back, to satisfy you ego, or you really love her? inany case, you have already hurt her, because as you said, you pushed her away. why? if you are so possessive,then you would have been clinging on her. so either you suspected her of involving with another guy, or you thought she will come back to you, and plead.? since that has not happened, now you are desparate to get her back ! but how much period has passed in the mean time ? is not possible, or likely. that now she is already with some one else ? doesn't want you ?
approach her by seeing the response over the phone, if she agrees to meet, apologise to her, and tell her you still love her. if she is ready to forgive and forget, well and good, you could patch up.but be prepared to accept any situation or reaction, sportingly. settle the matter once for all, rather than losing your peace of mind !

Answer 3

You are not only possessive, you are aggressive too. If you can push her once, it will definitely happen the second time that is if she ever come back to you.
Because to you after all, she has forgiven you, if your temper rises, your very first instinct is to lay on her again after all, is not the first isn't.
I am sorry to say this, I think she is better off with another guy whom can love her and would not laid his hand on her.

Answer 4

I think my situation is the same as yours.

One night my wife came back at 5am from party and I freak out and kicked her and blah blah blah.

My solution to you is to have a cooling period first..meanwhile say "SORRY" and tell her that what you did is not intentional. Thereafter, have a heart to heart conversation with her and tell her your feeling and then pray that she accepts your "excuse"

Answer 5

It's in your nature to be possesive,you cannot change it.If she went back to you,you would struggle to control it,but after a while,you would revert to it,It's like a wife-beater who cries & promises it wil never happen again,but it does.

Answer 6

It's not gonna happen. But, remember what you have learned for later relationships.

Holding someone to tight will make them run very fast.

Answer 7

If you believe in second chances, go to her and show that you're sincerely sorry. But you have to know what you did wrong and guarantee it won't happen again.

Answer 8

Let her choose.

I can get all flowery but fact is YOU want her back and decidedly YOU must choose to let her choose you; if HER happiness means more to you that YOUR desire to POSSESS her again.

Answer 9

Lesson No.1: NEVER screw up

Answer 10

Too late.