My boyfriend and I have been having trouble. He lied to me about something major a few months ago, and I'm still not over it. It hurts so bad. He says that he's sorry and that he loves me, but his actions say otherwise. I just wish that I was the most important thing to him sometimes. I used to feel like I was, but now I just feel like I bother him all the time. I don't think that I ask for much. I mean, all I want is a little time and affection. I basically have to beg for it, though. When we do spend time together, I feel like it's always sex-oriented. He says he just wants me, but I don't know. It bothers me a lot, and I cry about it all the time. I just want to know that he cares without having to ask for it. It hurts so much to think that somebody I care about so much and put so much into tryin to make it work with doesn't care anything about me. What should I do?
2006-07-21 19:24:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For all of you who are telling me to give him "space," you must realize that there is a whole world between us!! If there were anymore "space" the fabric of time would rip in two. I put up with this because I keep hoping it's going to get better and because I love him. We tried "taking a break" and all that stuff, but he always asks me back, or I go running back to him because some guy tried to fool with me while going out with friends one night. I'm hurting now, but when we weren't together, it hurt a million times worse.
2006-07-22 13:06:46 · update #1
he still loves you fo sho, dont worry, who knows what trouble he's havin other places, ask him about his worries and probs and try solving them, and then he'll give you all the time he's got, sometimes a guy doesnt like to reveal his probs to his girl, cuz it makes a guy look gay? so try as i told u...
PS: you can thank me later..
2006-07-21 19:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Note this, all men are full of ego and don't speak much about their inner self. They are not like an open book that you are allow to turn the pages where you can read his troubles or problem.
All ladies always want to feel important and need attention. However, giving some or little space between yourself and him, you will bring the right person to your life. To you speak of time and affection, he did give you during your courting days. But did you demand more?
Last note, delete the major issue from your brain if you want this to work. You may not know it but a man can sense this thought still present inside you. I can never understand why you want this major issue seal inside you. If you cannot forgive him, you should have left him. But you forgive him but still keep this thought.
If you have this fix deposit brain that bank all this issue and can never withdraw, how will it be possible to work toward getting marry?
2006-07-21 19:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by davidtay25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this sounds like the problems that me and my ex wife were having. She felt the same way and to me it seemed like I was giving her the time and affection. What you should do is get rid of him if he is not giving it to you. Find someone that will spend time with you and treat you like a queen and doesnt care what everyone thinks about it. If you end up staying with him it will just end up hurting you more.
2006-07-21 19:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by stampedefocus2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him now before you get hurt more. It will hurt now, but in the long run you are saving yourself a LOT of pain. He seems not to care enough for you to treat you properly, so leave him now. He doesn't deserve you, if he isn't willing to treat you like you matter to him. He figures that he can get the action, so he doesn't try for a REAL relationship. Dump him.
2006-07-21 19:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dump his sorry ***! If you have to beg for affection you are in a lot of trouble. See how much attention he gives you when you leave him. Then make him suffer for a while! If he doesn't care when you leave him--then you are better off anyway. Stop wasting your time on a loser!
2006-07-21 19:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I found out today that I have to pay for my first semester of college out of pocket. 2. I'm not sure if I'm going to break up with my boyfriend. 3. I still haven't found suitable full time employment yet.
2016-03-27 02:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the scumbag. he's got away with his lying and is treating you like dirt.
You deserve much better than that.
You'll find someone who does not need begging to give their affections.
2006-07-21 19:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than words
2006-07-21 19:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're a very sweet girl...who needs a lot more..and to be treated like a princess...take some time to seriously think about it...and what you really want...don't be content...
2006-07-21 19:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rodney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything will be fine, God Bless u
2006-07-21 19:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Dulshan A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋