how do i get my confidence back?

Question

I have lost my confidence cos my husband treats me like a baby i m 22 he is 37. i feel uncomfortable when we are in a gathering. What do i do to change my childish image in front of him, how will i be considered and adult for him.

Answer 1

You have to learn how to love yourself. Your husband needs to be told how his behavior is effecting you. People can't believe anything about you until you believe it yourself. Stand up for yourself and become an independent woman!

Answer 2

The question is do you act like a baby when you are out at different gatherings? There is a difference in acting like a baby and being much younger and probably not as mature. If it is the maturity thing he should have expected that when marring someone so young. What did he expect you have not experienced 1/2 of what he has and being your age being a little wild is to be expected. Was he looking for a trophy wife that should be seen and not heard???
If you are indeed acting like a baby then if you don't want him to trade you in for a newer model I suggest you try to act like a mature adult and not a baby. The bottom line is RESPECT.......you should respect him and find what really makes him embarrased and stop it and he should RESPECT you and not make you feel beneath him. Ultimately if you don't find the RESPECT your marriage won't last the test of time.

Answer 3

take a week or two trip to a friends away from him and just watch him ask you nicely but it will not cure that you need to confront him
with his treating you as a baby. I know it is hard I am the baby of my family too and I got two older brothers both married and there wives think they can drive me around with there rules. well they did for a few months until they went to far and then the tables turned I told them what up! I told them that what ever they think I should do is there business but once you cross that to my space be prepaired to defend your answer. they hate me. but I got my respect and dicdintity but in your case tell him and see if he changes if not fill for devorce and do not tell him then if he does it again go on another trip and leave a note with a copy of the devorce papers (the noote reads to the exstent of:
hello (Hubby) I have try every way I could think of to tell you not to treat me as your little girl or daughter or girlfriend, or a stranger
I want to be treated as an equal your wife but if it can not be so ...
and leave the note like that and then ps and then say you'll call at so and so time to tlk about it, of met in a public place to talk about it but have a friend hold on to the real devorce papers if it does not work you can call her and she can drop them off to you or send them to the house. I think he loves you or maybe he is thinking all high and mighty too in the case I'm sorry he might be set only thing is leave him and devorce

Answer 4

I am not sure if there is anything you can do to change his perception, because it is his perception. This guy sounds like the kind of guy that wants a submissive wife, and he feels like the age difference grants him the right to treat you like a child and with disrespect. Stand up to him. Let him know you are a woman, and treat him like a child, I have a feeling this will end the relationship quite abruptly, and with hard feelings in the end. But it is the right thing to do. Whatever you do....do NOT bring a child in to the situation until you are sure this is the guy you want to stay with for the rest of your life, no use in screwing up another innocent by-stander's life in the process.

Answer 5

You have to know you are intelligent and strong and powerful on your own without your husband. Your life does not depend on him. If anything, you just make him look good.
Try dressing a little older. Some of the ladies may offer some good tips here but I know a younger lady dressed tastefully and maturely can be absolutely stunning. If you know you look good your self confidence will get a boost.

Answer 6

Honestly, if he feels that way then he didn't marry you out of respect but because he wanted someone he can control. I was in a relationship like that and believe me you'd be happy if you did. But if you stay in it or I'm misunderstanding your question, you're going to need to learn about the things he dealt with in his life, what he grew up with and hang out with other people his age to see how they are. But remember, he married you knowing how much younger you were, and now he's making you feel childish. That's a form of mental abuse and think it over seriously, life's too short and you have way too many years left.

Answer 7

just tell him privatly that you feel uncomfortable about his actions and to respect the fact that you have been an adult for 2 years and want to be treated like one and if he continues to treat you like a baby then, embarress him by acting like a real baby in front of people then he will get mad and think

Answer 8

A 22 yr old woman is designed for a 22 year old man. Even experiences at that age. Both of you don't know what it is you don't know yet.

Run away and give yourself a break.

Answer 9

Well if you acted the same way when he met you then he really shouldnt have a problem with it. and if he loves you then he will accept it and know better than to say that, but hopefully its not around a crowd when he says it. and if you feel comfortable about it then ask him why does he say and talk to him about it. cause there is an age difference he knew that from the beginning. so just be who you are.

Answer 10

Every time he treats you like a baby, ask him not to do that, and stand up for yourself. If you just take it, he'll keep doing it. Just tell him that it bothers you and try to work around it. It will only get worse if you don't talk to him about it.