How do I get the courage to see a councelor?

Question

I have a lot of issues with my mom that i need to talk over with someone like a councelor, i could see the one at my school, but i just dont have the courage to do so. but I really need to talk to someone that will offer good advice. Any advice on how to muster up the courage?

Answer 1

Just go. Make an appt or email the counsellor to set up a time, probably "after school" for privacy issues or whatever. If not, then if your friends are asking you why you are going, either be honest or tell them you're worried about school, or whatever. Personally there's nothing wrong with it. I went to a shrink for about 6 months at one point, after a bad break up and it was the BEST thing i ever did. Go and good luck.

Answer 2

Well, yeah, I have some advice.

First off, since I don't know what the specific concerns are, I'm going to just assume that they are bad enough, in your eyes, that a counselor has become an option. This doesn't mean that they are horrible, just that this appears to be a fairly big issue for you.

Ok, with that being said.

The idea of going to see a counselor shouldn't be a scary thing, it should be like going to a friend or a relative to ask a question.

Make an appointment, and state up front with the counselor that you are uncomfortable with the whole process. Then go on to explain that you would rather, at least in this first meeting, just talk to find out more information.

From there, find out what sort of assistance that the counselor is able to provide and what resources they have available to provide to you outside of their office.

Find out the level of confidence that you have, or in another term, what is safe to tell them without the information being presented elsewhere. Word this carefully so that you get a good answer. A good way to word this might be: "Before we continue, I need to know how much of this session is between us and how much can go onwards to other school officials, authorities, my parents, etc. Is this the same as talking to a priest or a psychologist, and if so, what is your level of protection if you are required to provide information on our session?"

In the end, make sure that you are comfortable talking with this person. If you aren't, if you feel that something isn't right, then don't talk to them. If you feel that you need to talk to them a few times before telling them your concern, then do so. You must be comfortable before going forward.

I hope that you are able to find a positive solution.

Love as always,

Sebastian

Answer 3

A counsellor is someone who deals with situations like yours all the time, though it's normal to feel a little nervous about talking to a complete stranger about something that's so personal. But that can also be a good thing, you don't have to see the counsellor again if you don't want to, but sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger than a friend. They're completely confidential so you can be certain that nothing will be repeated elsewhere, they're trained to make you feel at ease and they're here to help! Just go for it one day, I bet you'll feel tons better afterwards! Think about improving your relationship with your mom, she obviously means alot to you. Good luck

Answer 4

JUST DO IT!!!!!! It takes longer to debate it in your mind that to just look one up and make an appointment. Do you want long term ot short term counseling? Short term is probably better. And do you want individual or family counseling? You probablu should get your own; she should get her own, and then you should go together for a family session. Why would you be afraid? You are merely seeking the objective advice from a third party that is not emotionally invested or biased......that takes courage!!!!

Answer 5

i didnt have the courage until my friend had me called out of class to the guidance counselor's office and made me tell the counselor about my problems. my problem was serious enough that they had to call my parents and tell them what id been doing... so id say tell a friend to make you go with her or something along those lines. that way it isnt as easy to chicken out because youll have a friend there with you... and your friend can most likely stay with you while you talk to the counselor if it makes you feel more comfortable... the counselors at school are there for you and are always more than willing to help. you could also try writing a note to the counselor first about your problems and then have her call you out of class... good luck with everything!

Answer 6

sweetie, always know that you are NOT alone and there are thousands of other people feeling just the way you do. Personally, I think of Jesus being by my side during difficult decisions and backing me up when I know its the right thing I have to do.
You want to seek counseling for you and your mom to be able to get along and have a better relationship and that is to be commended!
Dont be ashamed...be proud of yourself! Your mom probably is looking for a way to be better able to talk to you too!
(bet she wishes she could still go to her school counselor sometimes!)
Youre doing the right thing...and once you start talking to the counselor...I know youll agree...you made the right decision.

Answer 7

Remember that only YOU are responsible for YOU. You obviously know that there's a problem that needs to be addressed - that shows courage and maturity. Follow your instincts through and you'll live a fuller life as you were meant to. Good luck!

Answer 8

Look in the phone book for a counselor that can help you over the phone. That way you don't have to find courage to do it, just some privacy.

Answer 9

Just be brave and call a counsellor. Ask a friend who has a councellor how they did it. All you really need to do is pick up a phone and dial a number, the rest is easy. If you feel you need to talk to someone, then you just have to do it.

Answer 10

Dont be afraid of anyone .Have faith in yourself.
ANswer every thing confidently.Remember that u have the right to express urself freely .dont feel shy in expressing ur self. the way one thinks is different from others.people may like them or not depending on the way they think.But u must not loose ur faith and confidence in self.