We were at my door and saying goodnight, and he shook my hand. I have known him for a little while but it was our first date. Is the handshake a bad sign, or did he have no clue what he was doing? We had a good date- good conversation during dinner and a fun movie. Then he came up to my apartment and we talked and watched a DVD. So, what's going on with him?
2006-07-21 18:46:01 · 24 answers · asked by Matty Lynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, since the date lasted so long, and it could've ended long before he came to your apartment, I think it sounds like the date went well, handshakes aside. If he wasn't that interested, he would have left the date long before that.
If he really, really likes you, it's very likely he shook your hand against all his effort to kiss you. When you really like someone, you don't want to mess things up, especially on the first date.
If you go on another date, and you can really feel sparks flying, then kiss him next time. It will let him know you're okay with getting closer, not to mention he will really dig being kissed by you.
Most importantly, don't even sweat over this unless you really feel a connection between you two.
2006-07-21 18:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by Brackalicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matty Lynn, there is nothing wrong with this guy. By shaking your hand he is showing you that he is a gentleman and the he respects you. Be proud & happy that you have found someone that respects you because that means he also respects himself.
My first date with Bryan was nothing like any other dates that I have ever had. We went to the movies, but we could only catch the 9:45 showing so we had to ride around for an hour. Bryan talked about his life, things from his past and what was going on
in the present. Finally, time for movie. After the movie, he walked me to my car, opened my door, asked for my phone number. And as most men are they want a kiss--not Bryan, he asked me for a hug. That was so romantic for me. See I got nervous when we were riding around because he told me so much about his life that I thought he either was telling me this because he didn't find me attractive & wanted to scare me off or if he was just being honest, so I could decide if I wanted to go out with him again. That was 5 years & 2 1/2 months later and we are still together.
2006-07-21 19:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean a variety of things. It might mean that he liked you so much he wanted to show you respect by not rushing things. It may mean that he didn't feel you wanted a kiss or hug. It may mean that he doesn't feel romantic towards you. The best advice I can give is think about how the majority of the date went and base it off more than a moment that is always awkward anyway. Let things take a natural course and don't ponder to heavily or you could screw things up. IF it bothers you so bad you can't think straight or you just can't wait to know. Ask. Always a good idea to open the lines of communication.
2006-07-21 18:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by RANDALL S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not believe in kissing on the first date, or he was trying to take your feelings into consideration. Maybe he felt that you didn't seem to want a kiss before the night was over. He was probably nervous as you probably were as well. Go out with him again, and if the same results occur, don't see him any more.
2006-07-21 18:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just nervous. He didn't want to spoil the night with a bad kiss. Personally, when I get nervous around guys I like, I don't go for the hug or the kiss... I go with a stiff handshake. It's just a nervous reaction. I get over it. He should too.
2006-07-21 19:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by I'm awesome! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, "loveorlust" has a great answer. Nothing makes a guy swoon like the girl taking a little initiative.
Your experience has one of two meanings:
1)the guy was awkward and didn't want to offend you or spook you but likes you ...
2)the guy was not at all sexually attracted to you and simply wants to be friends.
Only you can decide which one of these is correct.
Good luck.
.
2006-07-21 19:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with a handshake ..hey at least he was a gentleman or else he is shy ...If he tries to give you a hand shake on your next date ....you do the kissing don't worry it's alright
2006-07-21 18:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what happened it could mean a lot of different things:
- He's just not that into you
- He's a gentleman and wants to court you a little before going further.
- He's a smooth operator.
2006-07-21 18:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a strange one. I would expect at least a hug! Either he is taking it slow, wants to be friends or is not sure how you feel. Have you made any moves at all? I would recommend you find out by doing some things together that involve physical contact e.g. dancing, twister, or "my back hurts can you rub it".
2006-07-21 18:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by markl_farkl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ont use to a date where there was nothing sexual. Thats a good thing he didnt try to get in you pants. Are you use to giving it up after every date not to be rude but thats what it sounds like.
2006-07-21 18:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by sexibrownthang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋