The situation is this: I have hung out with this girl a few times, asked her out a few times ... each time she has said "yes". And does seem to be interested in some sort of relationship although not sure if its friends or more. But she does not talk about what she wants, needs, feels... even casually. This leaves me confused, with a few questions. How is she interested in me? And is there a way to get her to open up more?
She does seem to be opening up a little to me...but not totally so Im still confused.
2006-07-21 18:44:40 · 15 answers · asked by korn_issues_29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships are between two people, meaning that if trust and intimacy is to be reached, BOTH people have to be willing to share and "self disclose".
If she isn't telling you what he is feeling, thinking, needing, etc, have you tried asking her? Girls are usually very happy to talk about themselves when asked? (She may have the idea that talking about herself unless she is asked will make her seem vain or self absorbed.)
If she really don't open up to you, than maybe she feels uncomfortable around you. Make sure you're sharing things too. If all else fails, there are hundreds of fish in the sea, if you know what I mean. Good luck!
2006-07-21 18:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by JennBride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said YES. That means she has feelings for you and she wants to be with you. Just because she doesn't open up right away doesn't mean she is not interested. Some girls that have been hurt in the past generally don't open up as fast as other girls. Let her have her space and when she is ready to open up to you a little more, she will.
2006-07-21 18:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Not knowing what has happened in past relationships she may be gun shy. Women want to know that when they tell a guy something or start to open up that that information won't be used against them, to judge them, or to blurt out to others. There must be a feeling of security there before she opens up. You also may want to really listen to the things she is telling you. Sometimes women are opening up but it is hard to de-code. Good luck ...if she is truly special to you and you are interested in her it will come in time.
2006-07-21 18:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by katchme_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the nearest library and check out the book men are from mars and women are from venus. This will answer all quesitons in regards to all women in general. Especilly if you want a few pointers on how to persue her with out being too strong for too forward. Take it slow with this one she is shy on purpose. It takes time for people who were in a relationship and it went bad and she just does not want to share this with you yet. Untill she gets to know you a little more. Just be a friend for now it will pay off in the long run trust me. Good Luck
2006-07-21 18:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by nmbroker@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave that person alone. They may have a reason. It may not be you. You never know what is going on in somones head. They may be in hard family time, may have been really hurt in the past. Just give her space and see what happens. In the mean time try to date other girls. This one may just be having some problems from the past or present.
2006-07-21 18:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same exact thing. The girl talks to me and we have fun with each other, but she never talks to me about her needs and what she wants.
The best thing to do now is to just keep the friendship going strong and soon enough she will open to you if she has feelings for you. There is no way she won't, no girls will be able to keep their feelings for too long especially if they think you have feelings for them too.
Don't weird her off though, just keep your actions on a frienship level.
2006-07-21 18:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by somecoolkid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was hurt in the past and is scared. Tell her how you feel and let her know you are there to listen if she decides to open up. But you must let her make that decision. Don't put unecessary pressure on her, or she'll run the other way.
2006-07-21 18:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definatly must like you if she keeps seeing you. She has maybe been hurt by someone and is slow to open up.
She must have qualities that you like. Give her time. Earn her trust. Be consistant in who you are. Share bits of yourself and hopefully she will start to open up more.
She perhaps have waters that run deep in her soul, which has given her one of two things...fear of getting close to someone, or wisdom beyond her years. Perhaps both.
2006-07-21 18:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to give her some more time. She might not be 100% sure of her feelings for you yet. Keep dating her, as long as she keeps saying yes.
2006-07-21 18:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has gotten hurt before and she doesnt want to open up again to risk it, i would say she isnt interested in you but you say she said yes so that makes it more difficult... and try talking to her about it, ask her why she doesnt open up ect, you may find your problem in there
hope you figure things out
2006-07-21 18:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Matt M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋