My bf and I have been together for five years now. We did break up about three months ago, for about four months. Before we ended our relationship before, we were arguing a lot too. During our "break" time we both "experienced" other people and we realized how much love we still had for one another...and that we truly did wanna spend our lives together. I know he loves me and i know i love him, but i do have a bit of a short temper, so if he doesnt do what i want ...i kinda get grumpy...and he can be the same way. We want to get married soon, but when i step away from the situation and i see how often we fight...i wonder what is going on...I see married couples and they dont ever "seem" to argue the way me and him argue...I am happy most of the time, but no not all the time...well during our arguments...sometimes they are big, and sometimes they are for no reason...what should i do...i need advice plz!! thanks!
2006-07-21 18:26:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well thanks...Tonight i know it was my fault...but i wanted him to apologize and he didnt want to...grr it just fustrates me...ADVICE TO GUYS IF A GIRL ASKS U TO APOLOGIZE JUST DO IT HAHA ...
2006-07-21 18:38:04 · update #1
My husband and I argue all the time. We have been married 37 years. I love him more now than I did when we got married. We have a lot of spice in our life. I am not saying it is good or right to argue, but our marriage seems to be okay with it. I am stubborn and so is my husband. I won't give in and he will. It was not always like that but he has softened over the years. I would die without him. I can see his faults and mine and I realize that nothing could be bad enough for me to ever live without him. Maybe your relationship is like mine. Sit down and talk to your boyfriend about the arguing and see if you can get any answers as to why. Good luck and if you truly love one another nothing can come between you.
2006-07-21 18:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
1) You sound like you have serious control issues. How do the fights start? Do they fall into a pattern? Asking for an apology is one of the most obnoxious, combative things a woman can do.
2) You're a woman. You like shoes. Ever gone to a shoe store, seen a shoe, and just fallen in love with it? You LOVE it so!!! Yet, when you put it on, it hurts your feet. It "just doesn't fit." People and relationships are the same way. If it isn't smooth, if it doesn't work minute to minute, then the feelings you have for the person simply don't matter. The natural, unconscious flow must be free and easy, or it is the wrong relationship. It is the wrong shoe. Learn this now before you have a trail of bad relationships and marriages in your past.
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2006-07-21 18:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you have BAD communication.However,it's also evident that there's love in this relationship,or you woldnt be seeking help.I would recommend a private sit down between the two of you to go to pre-marriage counseling.It won't do miracles,but sometimes when there's a mediator,it's easier to get things out and listen to one another(which sounds like the dillema).A nice,honest talk(in or out counsel) will help give the 2 of you a smooth transition into married life..Congrats and good luck!
2006-07-21 18:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like my girlfriend. she has a short temper too. ill tell you what i tell her. pay attention to the way you talk to him and ask him to do the same. if you can both pull this off, then things will be a lot easier. but you have to work harder at it than he does because it is your idea and you need to show him that you want to do this and eventually he will see it too. people get into a rut about the way they treat each other and then its really hard to get out. but if he is as important to you as you make it sound, then you should be okay. but if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out.
2006-07-21 18:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Christian H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day life is very stress full.Couples seem to take out problems on each other.Why do you act this way to the person you love and not to your best friend. Treat him/her like you want to be treated and things will be fine.There is nothing two people can not work out.
2006-07-21 18:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT PART OF A RELATIONSHIP, BUT IF YOU ARE SERUOULY THINK ABOUT MARRAIGE, I WOULD SIT
DOWN AND TALK TO A COUNSELER BEFORE DOING THIS
IT COULD BE PROBLEM DOWN THE ROAD. I DONT MEAN
THAT IT OK TO ARGUE ALL THE TIME BUT WITH ANY
REALTIONSHIP IT WILL BE UP AND DOWN. BUT GET
SOME COUNSELING.
2006-07-21 18:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are HUMAN BEINGS and are allowed to disagree about things from time to time as long as no physical abuse by either of you is involved.........If you are happy, and love him and he loves you, don't sweat the small stuff........It's all part of growing together!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-21 18:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing because you don't agree. This is not love.
2006-07-21 18:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋