i broke me virginity at d age of 15.i strated getting periods at d age of 13. it may b 10 times in 6 months dat my bf did sex wid me. now im 19 n planning 2 marry after 2-3 yrs.n afta dat i nEVA let n e guy even touch my hand.it was just dat i got a bf who was bad .. my bad luck may b..
my question is dat will my husband come 2 know dat im not virgin ??should i tell him by myself dat its already broken..im a muslim girl..will he know?? as i told u i had it 5yrs back n after dat i neva had nor will i eva have except marriage..plzz ans me seriously ..boys n girls..
2006-07-21 18:23:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He will not know the truth but you will. Can you live the rest of your life with the man you love knowing that you started this marriage off with a lie. I dont mean to make you feel guilty but sweetheart we both know that a marriage is based on honesty and trust. Do not start out the wrong way. If he loves you and knows that you love him then he will forgive you and move on from it. Maybe a counselor could help you in telling him so that there can be an imparcial 3rd party.
2006-07-21 18:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by lvb524 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any way for him to tell if you are a virgin or not. Just act like it is your first time. I would say DO NOT tell him about your bf at age 15. Your husband might hold it against you and ruin any chance of a happy marriage. You do not have to tell him everything, especially something that might ruin your marriage. If he doesn't know about it, he will never be bothered by it.
2006-07-21 18:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Nadia, its very bad for a muslim to have sex before marriage, you shouldn't have done that. Anyway, its the hymen which is lost and sex is not the only way a girl can lose it. So don't worry, your husband won't find out. Pray to Allah for forgiveness. I know he is very forgiving. If you are really sorry for your sins and pray from your heart, Allah will forgive you. Try saying prayers five times a day and reading the Holy Quran daily. It will make you feel better. It works for me!
2006-07-21 18:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Awais 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to reveal this now, my dear!!!In your early teen and also in a developed country where dating & sex are considered to be normal, you did not do much wrong!! Since you realised the uselessness of these temporary relationships and refrained from other affairs,in my opinion, you need not be worried. There is also one more angle to this..... how do you know that your husband did not have any pre-marriage relationships?? There is no sure shot test for virginity...all these crap about intact hymen is all bull ****. Go ahead, get married, love him to the core and dont cheat him!!!
2006-07-21 18:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say nothing he will know because that physical barrier has been broken and cannot be replaced. It is always best to start a marriage with complete honesty. If you don't you'll always be worried that he'll find out or the boyfriend will contact him or whatever. If he doesn't forgive and go on you deserve better and will have saved yourself alot of heartache. If he responds with love and forgiveness, hold on to him honey.
2006-07-21 18:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by brneyedgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much sexual experience HE has... If a guy has been with a lot of girls, and is a little attentive, he will be able to tell if a girl is a virgin, or not, when he fingers her.
I'm sorry, but I am not that emotionally intelligent, I don't know what you should say to him about it, if anything...
2006-07-21 18:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will most likely know, so it would be best to tell him the truth. do not start out your marriage with a lie...the truth is always best, if he dosn't understand then your marriage would not be worth having...a real man will understand that u telling the truth about this and everything else is what is important....good luck and enjoy your sex......making love is better that just sex.....
2006-07-21 18:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 01:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did w/ life in the past is NONE of his business. And given the nature of this guy you're in love with, it's best to let him think he's gotten the virgin "brass ring".
It's called "faking it", and women are naturally quite skilled at it.
From there, it's your well kept life's secret.
2006-07-21 18:28:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hymen could have been broken in many different ways, I don't think he could tell. But dishonesty isn't the best way to start a marriage now is it?
2006-07-21 18:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋