my 2 year old is uncontrollable!!!!!!!!!?

Question

he pottys just to spite me, when he wants to potty he can but otherwise dont ask him to go, he will wait for a clean diaper or underware then use the restroom on himself ,colors on the wall, in the car on the back seat , stove EVERYWHERE i cant posably keep ALL the writing utensils out of his hands bites other children runs when you call him,

Answer 1

terrible 2's. i think you should get some help from a pro.

Answer 2

Take UP everything that can write and put it away. YOUR THE BOSS! If he bites another child, place your knees on both sides of his legs and each hand on one elbow and ask the other child to "bite him back" this usually stops that after a few bite backs. They can be just as unmerciful as your child. Also, give him a Time-Out in a corner with his back to the rest of the room and no other toys or t.v. in the room to "distract" him. Just stand in the door and watch him, timing him. If he gets up, make an "annnhht" noise and sit him back down. DON'T SAY ANYTHING AS THIS IS WHAT HE WANTS. Its called Behavior Modification and IT WORKS. If you can't correct him, simply change his BEHAVIOR. You can also use Positive reinforcement but not until he has shown progress. By this I mean, when he does right, applaud him, thank him, clap for him and give him a small thanks or gift. But ONLY after a while and only when he's doing RIGHT! Good luck!

Answer 3

I really can't relate to the "terrible 2's". I raised two sons and neither of them went through that. In the first place, I never allowed a situation to get out of control. I spoke a "command" no more than twice. Children are not stupid and a 2 year old understands exactly what they are doing...YOU, have to make sure that they understand WHAT will happen if they continue to do it. Taking care of the "world revolves around me" problem now, will save you a lot of heart ache later. Come down hard on the monster. YOU are the parent, take control.

Answer 4

you don't need parenting classes and your kid isn't bad, he is just frustrating. i have 4 kids ( 2,5,7,9) and they all did those things to some degree. my two year old now is the worst. my walls are a nice shade of crayola and permanent marker. my stove and fridge have also been decorated. I'm currently trying to potty train and i let her run around naked the other day and took her to sit on the potty every half hour sat with her and sang songs and read books then she got up went into the living room hopped on the coffee table and pee'd on it . soon it well be over and then the real crap starts good luck.. just for fun take him to your mother and laws for the night, turn off the phone and laugh

Answer 5

So when you ask him why he waits for a clean diaper, what does he say? If he is actually doing something to spite you, which two year olds probably don't, then it is your behavior that should be looked at to see what is provoking the child. Many parents do not see how their own behavior, or need to control the child or situation, drives the child to resist just so they can keep some control over their own lives.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are really being challenged right now! Two year olds can be adventurous little people who are really into exploring their worlds and testing limits. It's his job to do that...it's your job to set limits and keep him safe.

First, I'd suggest you check out these books -
Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower
The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears
Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Kurcinka

You can't control his toileting habits. That is something that only HE can control. It is not worth it to turn that into a power struggle. You can suggest that he try, but don't try to force it.

Put up all the writing utensils where he can't get them. Don't leave anything out. You might consider only letting him draw or color in his high chair or only if you are right there doing it with him. Tell him over and over again, "we only draw on PAPER" or "PAPER is for drawing on, NOT walls" each time it happens. You can even try to get him to help clean it up. (Try Mr. Clean Magic Eraser.)

For the biting.....
PREVENTION is key. Don't leave him alone with other kids. When he does play with others, watch for triggers and see if there is something that usually brings on the biting so that you can prevent it. Work on communication with him. (How verbal is he?) Kids this age bite to communicate. Give him the words he needs, "You look mad!" or "You're frustrated!" If he does bite, make a big deal over the person who was hurt.

NEVER bite a child back or allow another child to do so! If working to PREVENT biting doesn't take care of the problem, you can try having him bite HIMSELF. Take his arm or the back of his hand and press it into his teeth. Say "ouch! teeth hurt!" or "teeth are sharp!" followed by "no biting!"

For the running off, again, work to prevent it. Insist that he hold your hand, be carried, ride in a sling or in a cart when you are in public. You can try the countdown technique, where you count to 3 and he is supposed to come to you. You can even try making a game of it in order to get him to want to comply. Turning things into a playful situation will often inspire cooperation.

Good luck! Hope this helps!

Answer 7

welcome to the terrible twos(it will last till they are 18 and move out)He is testing his boundaries and you are his lab rat.The more you react(yelling,spanking ,getting mad)the more he will act out.The key is to set FIRM rules and consequences(simple,give 2 choices)and stick with them..stick with basics...writing on walls=he has to clean it up(don't expect perfect..effort counts).Make potty in the toilet more fun..(a handheld game he can ONLY use on the potty,a splash of dish detergent in the water makes great bubbles ,sink the toilet paper boat..also improves aiming!).get inventive!the biting...if he bites make him apologize and remove him from the situation"sorry but if you act ugly you cant play".if he runs when you call him..say good bye and disappear(just hide but make him think you are gone..always always watch him while you do it or enroll a friend to watch him for you)when you see that he is looking for you come back and explain why he has to come when you call him.most of all stay CALM 2 year olds are like little sharks..if they smell blood(or frustration)they go for the jugular lol if you feel your are about to blow a gasket....give yourself a time out or just close your eyes and count to 100..never act while you are mad..last but not least LOVE HIM>>this too will pass and you will eventually laugh about it and embarrass him in front of his prom date.

Answer 8

OH MY GOSH I FEEL YOUR PAIN IN HAVING ALOT OF PROBLEMS WITH MY 2 YEAR OLD TOO. I WOULD NOT ENCOURAGE SPANKING BECAUSE IT ONLY GIVES THEM THE IDEA THAT HITTING IS OKAY, THAT'S NOT WHAT YOU WANT! IVE BEEN TURNING TO DO TWO MINUTES OF TIME OUT AND GETTING DOWN TO MY CHILD'S LEVEL AND EXPLAINING WHY THE BEHAVIOR IS NOT OKAY, ITS BEEN SOMEWHAT HELPFUL BUT IT GETS EASIER EVERY TIME. ITS SO FRUSTRATING BUT HANG IN THERE AND REMEMBER THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU OR YOUR SON. YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE GOING THOUGHT THIS. AND IT MIGHT BE MORE HELPFUL IF YOU DO SOME COLORING WITH HIM. SPEND ALOT OF TIME WITH HIM AND SHOW HIM THE RIGHT WAY OF DOING THINGS. MAYBE YOU COULD TRY TO BUY HIM SOME BATH PAINT AND TELL HIM WRITING ON THE WALLS IS ONLY FOR BATH TIME. OR HAVE HIM GO OUTSIDE AND DO SOME FINGER PAINTING WITH HIM. SIDEWALK CHALK IS ALSO FUN. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

parenting classes may help....sounds like he needs more decipline....put him in time out..if he bites other kids,don't let him play with them for a while...put the diapers away,let him know that he is not going to be wearing diapers anymore....put safety childproof locks on cabinets...don't have writing utensils where he can reach them...get him coloring books,and if he colors on anything besides the coloring books,take them away for a while....

Answer 10

get used to it ...lol ....this is only terrible two's....next you have nightmare three's...and then straight jacket four's...a 2 year old is a walk in the park compared to a 4 year old...my son is 4 right now and he is god awful i only thought 2 and 3 were bad....take deep breaths, hot baths, long walks, and love the silence at night cause it only gets worse....good luck

Answer 11

ok do you whoop his/her backside or just say don't do that, it is not nice ... A little Discipline goes along way...just as long you don't beat him/her it helps to set boundaries, if you don't do it now, ur gonna have ur hands full later when he/she is a teen....start now, also enlist ur husbands/signigicant others help...maybe they are not helping and need to..