So my sister is getting married next month. She's like my best friend too. I'm 18 so i dont have a lot of money since i'm savin up for school. My boyfriend is the best man and he is spending 500$.. i cant afford that so he's making me look bad lol.
Also... I spent 50$ on her bridal shower present, plus 100 for the bridal shower, 40 for her bachelorette present and 20 for the limo for her bach party.. plus I've helped them out a lot by stuffing 500 invitations, going with her to pick out every little detail, etc. I'm not the maid of honor because we also have another sister who is older and she didn't want to hurt her feelings... long story short, she regrets not having me as the m.o.d. but oh well...
How much should I spend and do you have any cute ideas of what to get her? I was planning on making her a scrapbook like a year ago but it all fell through...no gay answers.. just honest ones that will help me.. i dont want them to think I'm cheap but idk what to get!
2006-07-21 17:59:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am also very close with the groom because they have been dating for 5 yrs all while she was living at home with me
2006-07-21 18:00:22 · update #1
I also paid 175$ for my dress
2006-07-21 18:03:23 · update #2
With all you have done, you have no obligation, really. I don't think she can rightfully accuse you of being cheap.
But you could do things like:
1. Offer to babysit their dog (if they have one)
2. Cook them a dinner. Play chef
3. Wash their cars
etc.
Basically, what takes time for them to do? If you do it instead, they would appreciate it.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 18:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by kako 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have already given them a lot.
Maybe offer to clean the house for them, or help them move in and unpack, decorate, etc.That would really come in handy!
The coupon book idea that someone else suggested sounds like a great idea, but remember you have already given a lot...and that should count...plus she needs to realize your situation, by the way, you can still make the scrapbook. Just make sure you get pictures at the wedding and see if she can get you some pictures from the honeymoon. Did you take pictures at the bridal shower? You could put those in there, you could also include some of the two of you when you were growing up, etc. That would be really nice.
2006-07-22 03:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by sherryrosemary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your sister is very grateful for everything you've already done for her. And I don't think money is an issue here. I think it needs to be something personal to both of them from your heart. Something I saw once at a wedding where someone took the wedding invitation and worked it into a beautiful frame with wedding pictures in-cased around it. Can you picture what I'm saying.? In your case where you are so close to both of them, dig up some really good photo's of the 3 of you and go with that. Or maybe some of just them that you took at one time. It is something they will hang up and Cherish forever. You sound like a loving sister. I'm sure no matter what you come up with will be cherished always. I even like that scrapbook idea. Do a big frame in that idea. See if you can get a copy of their birth certificates or baby pictures. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-22 15:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding etiquette states that you do not have to get anything for her. Guests are under no obligation to get gifts for the the wedded couple. It's just that -- a gift, given freely. That said, the heartfelt gifts are often more cherished then the purchased ones. Something that you made would be nice. Why not start a scrapbook now? Or, as another writer suggested, do them some sort of favor. Or make a coupon book of IOUs (just don't get in over your head. Or just give her a nice card with a nice note inside. If you feel you must explain, just mention that you'd love to get her something nice but you're low on cash right now and you're giving her love instead. Who can argue with that:)
2006-07-22 03:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by miss shmoopalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just married and I have two sisters. One of them was like your boyfriend with money to burn and she went nuts. My baby sister is a lot like you... limited funds. The sweetest present that the two of us received was from her. She gave us a simple card. She had used our engagment pictures and gave the bride and groom our faces. She then gave us an "I O U" in the inside. On the card she had written... Now I am in debt to you. Let me know what I need to do... this is my gift to you.
Give them something with your own special touch. They will appreciate it.. and besides, they know they have your greatest gift... your love and support.
2006-07-22 05:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are very close, she knows your situation and she knows that you would get them something really nice if you had the money, so don't feel bad, what you can do is customized presents, embroidered pillowcases, engraved photo frames, something really nice and personal, that nobody else would get them.
2006-07-22 02:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by muskrat_susy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best gifts I received from my wedding was gift cards, boy did they come in handy.
2006-07-22 01:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by DivaStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reported one of my questions. Thank God for people like you prowling the internet for anything that you don't agree with. If it weren't for people like you, we might have different options. WHEW!
fat *** moron.
2006-07-22 15:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋