It is not because she is cheating either..so lets nix that one now...in the beginning she was great but has now fallen off the deep end...I don't understand...I try and try...but there is only so much I can do..I care deeply for her and her for me...but soon I will look else where, call me shallow but when there is no sex in what once was a very active relationship its hard to just up and quit...I can only be supportive for so long...any help would be nice...
2006-07-21 17:47:36 · 13 answers · asked by Justcurious81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...people some of you are pretty harsh...I am real and honest...and love to cuddle..all that stuff...I never cheated on her and just...have had it happen to me so I refuse to do it to other people....as far as satisfying her...there is no issue her drive has just declined where as mine just increases....
2006-07-21 18:50:55 · update #1
Ummm...have you sat her down and tried to discuss why she don't want sex?
2006-07-21 17:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by NYCchic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well evidentlly you don't really care for her because if you did you wouldn't cheat on her. Sex ISN'T the most important thing in the world. Also maybe she is just having a low sex drive right now. Do you not have a hand and/or porn?? Maybe you should try being supportive for real and thinking about her and not your needs.
2006-07-22 00:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one you obviously don't love her that much if you are willing to just give up that fast. Your relationship should not just be based on sex and If I was her and heard what ur saying right now I would definitely break up with you. You should try talking to her to see if there's something wrong..try being understanding. You got to remember that women are really in relationships for the love, devotion, cuddling, affection, u know that kind of stuff of course we want sex but we can live without it unlike men.
2006-07-22 01:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other and want to work on this problem together, you could go to counseling. Maybe your gf doesn't know the reason for her reduced desire. Maybe she is defensive from your pressuring her for more sex, and threatening to leave her if you don't get it. Doesn't make a person feel real secure, does it?. Maybe she thinks you don't love her if you value "more sex" than remaining with her. If you love each other, these things can be talked about with a counseler, who will help you to figure out what to do.
2006-07-22 01:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I have a high sex drive myself so I can see where you're coming from. When you're in a relationship it's important to be sexually compatible, if you aren't it can really cause problems. Have you tried new things? Foreplay? New positions? that could help. Try to spice things up a bit, maybe it'll help. If nothing changes then sorry to say, but you might have to find someone else that can satisfy your needs.
2006-07-22 00:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by sugrnspice2xasnice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for all you know your girlfriend is having some insecurities about herself. if you havent tried this, tell her she is beautiful and you love her the way she is. dont just immediately want sex sex sex.. woman like to be romanced so treat her nicely.. maybe to get her in the mood turn off the lights .. and light candles and give her a massage. whisper in her ear sweet things and kiss her neck. sex is about love, be gentle she will come around.
2006-07-22 00:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by ---><33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much is not much sex? Like once a week or once a month? Spice up your love life with toys, sex games, kama sutra, anything. Buy her lingerie and scented candles.
2006-07-22 00:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women do get bored try something new, or just accept that she does not have the drive that you do relationships are based on more than just sex anyway see any good movies lately?
2006-07-22 00:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe its over between the two of you. In the meantime, I presume that your hand is still in working order.
2006-07-22 00:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look U do not satisfy her so she got bored of pleasing u
Get skills..make her come(before she only faked it)
2006-07-22 00:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by marindoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋