This is complicated, I was dating this girl for 2 years and then she broke up with me because she isn't ready for a relationship. She wants to know if what she feels about me is really love though. She said that: she has crushy feelings for me; I make her feel comforted; she is struggling to let me go; she cares about me differently than anybody else. However, she isnt sure if she loves me, she is 15 and going through hormones and her mom says that she dosnt know what she wants and she agrees. Its stressing her out. she said that she is excited about giving me a second shot when she is 17 or 18 and she is really jealouse when she thinks about me dating another girl, she even started crying when we where talking about it. She said that she sometimes feels it in her heart. She also believes that it will work out the next time we start dateing. She had an abusive father in the past, and this may affect how she feels. I need to know, because I know I love her more than my own life.
2006-07-21 17:39:22 · 7 answers · asked by Matt A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let her work though things. It sounds like she is confused about what her feeling really are and has some issues that need to be resolved within herself. I think it is best for you to leave her to her feelings. Give her space and walk away for awhile. It might/will hurt, but she needs to feel it.... once she realizes what she wants she will either be back forever, or maybe not.... Don't wait forever. You sound like a great guy with a big heart. True love is other there waiting for you, it is just not sure if it is with her or not.
2006-07-21 17:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off,you did mention that she is 15 years old and she is considered a young woman,with that in mind she has alot of emotions to deal with do to growing up pains.I don't really think it has anything to do with her father.I really think that she is confused about her emotions towards the big word called LOVE.The reason for her saying that it would be different and work out when she gets alittle older is due to her emotions of being just 15 years old.Don't get me wrong she definitely has the feelings and the ability to love and know who she does love,which is really sounds like she does have these feelings for you.You might need to just be patient with her and let her know that you are there for her and that you don't want to break anything off,that you just want her to have the space she needs right now,so she can start feeling and sorting herself and emotions out,but that you will be there with open arms waiting for her.Best wishes to you both!
2006-07-22 00:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all she is fifteen and does not have enough emotional experience to decide now if she is in love with you or not, she is experiencing feelings now that she has never felt before so be patient with her and give her time if this is meant to be it will be if not just be her friend.
2006-07-22 00:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. She just needs to find herself. It's complicated, but be patient.
2006-07-22 00:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH OF YOU ARE YOUNG, AND THAT MAY BE WHAT THE
PROBLEM IS, GIVE HER TIME, BE THERE FOR HER, BUT
TAKE IT SLOW SHE GOING THROUGH A LOT, BUT I WOULD
NOT JUST HANG AROUND TO SEE WHAT GOING TO HAPPEN . BECAUSE THINGS WILL CHANGE FOR BOTH OF
YOU AS YOU GET OLDER.
2006-07-22 00:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit back, give her time and maybe let her do some counseling sessions!
2006-07-22 00:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her let her go...if she loves you she'll come back
2006-07-22 01:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by jb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋