Serious question for men - Young single mother with 3 kids?

Question

I'm a young, good looking woman who has a successful career, a good head on my shoulders, and my stuff together, but I have 3 kids by 2 different men who are both in prison. I often attract young, single men who have never been married and have no children. I usually avoid dating them because I don't think they have an idea of what there are getting into. What would go through your mind if you met a woman that seemed perfect to you but had three kids? How scary would that be, or would it be?

Answer 1

That's sooooooo easy...If you were up front with me and I liked to be with you...I would want to accept your children because they are a part of you....what happened in the past is in the past...I would concentrate on our future!!!

Answer 2

My point of view is that it wouldn't matter. I love kids, I've got two already, I'm married, but If I ever did go single again, it still wouldn't matter in the least. Just because a woman has kids doesn't make that lady a bad person. No child is a mistake or accident and you can not say who you are going to fall for. It just could be a learning experience for all concerned and the kids would benefit in the long run having a stable male role model in their life.

Answer 3

Three kids is bad, real bad. Three kids by two different men is worse. But 3 kids by 2 men who are both in prison???

I can't think of anything that any woman could EVER offer me to want to try and pursuit anything with her under those conditions.

I would suggest raising your standards on your men (as in ones who arent going to prison), but I honestly think you will have a hard time finding these guys. Id rather have an ugly woman with no drama than a hottie with nothing but drama. I think almost anyone would agree.

Answer 4

Hello,
Well with three children.You most definately have your hands full lady.My opinion is that the man would have to be very mature.And understand that your childen come first and foremost in your life.However at the same time you need the company of a man,as you are a mature woman with wants,needs,desires,the same as any other woman/adult.The man would have to understand that you may not be able to spend the amount of quality time in his company that he may desire.And at the same time,he should consider time with both you and your children as quality time.Because you are still together,and sharing your life with him.And as far as "scary",Not at all lady.If i were the man interested in knowing you.I would also inquire of you to tell me what role(s) the other two men are going to play in your life upon their release.As after all they are the fathers,and have every right to know of their children.But what role do you/they see between yourselves when they are released.So it's a gamble for any man who wishes to be in your company.But if he cares for you and your children then he should not let that bother him if you explain the situation in detail so he knows what to expect in being with you.
I wish you the best of luck lady..:)

Answer 5

Three kids by two different men would scare me.

It would alert me that she might be doing things to run men off. Like at first she would come across as perfect (maybe putting on a show with cooking, cleaning and sex) and then I would expect her go to psycho.

If it appeared that I was just one of many men, I WOULDN'T TOUCH HER. I would KNOW that she wasn't healthy to be around.

So, you might have to look at yourself and see if that is true about you, or not.

Wish you the best.

Answer 6

For me, it would not be the three kids, but that both fathers ended up in prison. That would tell me that you had problems with attracting men of quality, and I would have to wonder, what happens when "daddy" gets out of jail.

Answer 7

that a tough one. well the 3 kids is definetly tough, and its smart to stay away from does you boys, but perhaps finding men that are in similar situations would help, like divoced, single parent, or someone like that.
Personally three kids for me that would scare me a little, but the way you have your life situated, makes it not much of a worry, of course getting a man to not run off fast enough to realize that must be a little tough.

Answer 8

I dont think there would be any problems provided the man loves children anbd understands how much time is neede to raise them

personally the only questions I would be asking you would be how you felt about their fathers and their involvement when they get out of prison

Answer 9

in recent times adult adult males get married at 28 on usual. some only opt to attend til they have a tremendous activity, yet others do not opt to advance up. i imagine some adult adult males will only under no circumstances advance up, besides the actuality that in the adventure that they have "mistake" children they're going to keep on like no longer some thing exceeded off. they do no longer might want to take the placement of dad, husband, etc. because there is continuously a mom prepared to do the artwork.

Answer 10

I know im not who u want to hear from, but just so u know i was a single mother of 3 and i never had a problem dating.. most guys today dont seem to care to badly about that..

Answer 11

For me , your 3kids doesn't matter much. I would just like to know and watch how much you can care for me. Actually your 3 kids are not a issue. The other things in your life is more important. I would like you to be honest and tell me things regarding yourself and your men-why are they in jail and other things. I would like to see how much you are committed in this relationship and i'm not just another man. I have got into such things in my life and nothing scares me emotionally. Rather i would like to know people with such emotional vulnerabilities.