i just lost my fav. aunt last night to cancer we have only know about it for not even a week ....she was the soul and back bone on my moms side of the family.. me and my sisters are all hurting a whole lot,,and my mom isnt even coping to well she keeps coming in and out out real state..
2006-07-21 17:26:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It will hurt for a while. Cry, mourn, and remember her. My grandpa died a year ago last January. He was the support for my family. It hurts a lot to walk into the house and not see him. But I still laugh at all of his stupid jokes and antics. It is not easy, but it will get better. That pain you feel will become a dull whisper in time. It is too soon to try to move on. If you really want to deal, try doing something to remember her. I wrote poems and looked at pictures just to express my pain. But, don't try to move off of that pain too soon. The pain you feel right now is your soul crying out that something is not right. That we should never be seperated from those we love. Although they are heaven, we still desperately long to be with them. That is what your soul is saying. It is not selfish or wrong, it just an affect from the fall.
Trust me what you all need to do right now is mourn. Remember your aunt for who she was. Her memory and her love and her heart will live on in all of you! So long as you never forget who she was!
2006-07-21 17:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry you lost your aunt. It's always a shock even when you know it's coming.
Here's the thing. You will never "get over" or "deal with" your aunt's death. It will always be with you just like she will always be with you. It will hurt less as time passes, but it will always hurt. My brother died almost exactly 30 years ago. I still miss him. Sometimes, I still get a tear in my eye thinking about it. All you can do is accept the facts and live on.
Good Luck to you and your family.
2006-07-21 17:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. There is counseling out there. One group that I can recommend is Hospice. They have grief counselors that are available. my mom was seeing one. We lost my brother in Nov2005 and then my sister in April2006. Neither of them expected. Mom has a rough time. And that's ok, she just has to grieve sometimes. We all do. My family just lets each other know that we are here when needed and that we love each other. It's hard to lose anyone, especially someone that is such a backbone of the family. Just know that your loved one would want you to take care of each other and take one day at a time. Give yourselves time to grieve and also time to heal. God bless!!
2006-07-21 17:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God's blessings on you and your family in your time of grief. Time heals all wounds you will never get over it I have lost 2 babies and I am not over it. Your aunt will live on in your memories, talk about her with your sisters and your mom, talk about the funny things she did or said a smile and laughter is the best thing that will help you heal.
2006-07-21 18:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by DivaStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my heartfelt condolences on behalf of the Yahoo! Answerers' community, on losing your favourite maternal aunt, to cancer. It is indeed a tragic loss.
The best way to get over the hurt, just now, is to give vent to all your emotions - and cry all your sorrows out. That will give some relief.
And then, try to remember all the physical pains she had endured - and remind yourself that she has finally found her relief.
Time, my friend, will prove the greatest healer.
2006-07-21 17:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your loss but I lost both of my parents to cancer you as a family need to stay strong and support each other no matter what happens your family has to be strong.
2006-07-21 17:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by gould1272 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres something that helped me when I lost a loved one...I wrote him a letter to get my feelings out about how I felt when he passed, where I was when it happened, how it affected me, how it affected others, how his passing is going to affect our son,ETC...now I know it might seem crazy but it REALLY helped me. Every time I was sad, I wrote to him. It is now 3 years later and his letter is 400 pages long. I even wrote to him when I was happy when I started healing alittle bit...writing to him gave me a sense of security like he was still around and like I still had the oppertunity to talk to him. Im currently working on ways to get it published to help people out there such as you and your family....people who go through losing a loved one, people who have to support one who lost a loved one etc. It can help so many people so I suggest that you suggest to her to write her a letter. It really couldnt hurt to try it. You can email me if you ever need to talk. Sorry for you and your family's loss.
2006-07-21 17:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 01:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my Mom on 9/28/05 and I listened to music,ate a lot,cried a lot,one thing that got me through it was my sisters.I'm sorry bout your lost
2006-07-21 17:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cried for a month and non-stop when my uncle died of skin cancer.
It takes time to get used to them not being there.
I still cry when I think about him.
Just like right now.
2006-07-21 17:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by eyescatchxfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋