I hope I put it in the right category.
2006-07-21 17:21:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
A couple suggestions (from a shy person):
1. Find a very extroverted friend to pall around with. Extroverts will help you meet people, so long as you can stand to be around them. And because very extroverted people can be kind of obnoxious, you will find that in any group there will be people who would prefer to hang with his "quiet friend" (meaning: you).
2. Try activities that will force you to meet people. For example, go to a community group. I sometimes go to dancing lessons, or photography workshops, or things like that with the "real" purpose of being forced to be around others.
3. Speed-dating... if anything will shock you out of shyness... this is it. Most big cities have speed-dating encounters. I will warn you though: this is not for the feint of heart. Personally, I'm not sure I could do it. For starters, I'm married. But it does have the advantage of forcing you to talk, which is better than other parts of the "dating scene" (bars, dancing, etc.), where you can't even hear yourself think, let alone talk.
Good luck. And remember the only difference between us and the 'cool' people is that they think they're 'cool' people.
2006-07-21 17:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by SilverSun614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you can tell if a baby will be shy by it's response to the stress test while still in the womb - it takes longer to return to the baseline heart rate, so shyness is part of you, not your fault. But it is helpful to think more about the other person than yourself. You are likely quite sensitive so if you can turn that to helping others, your own self esteem can grow. When you reach out more to others, you'll discover you are not alone in your fears. And you are probably harder on yourself than on anyone else. You are a gift to you so explore and enjoy the gift and gifts and share. List your fears - then list what's the worst that can happen with each one. The fears then start to look smaller and weaker. What would you say to help someone like you ie our twin?
2006-07-21 19:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by martian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to tell yourself every morning that you are a wonderful, valued human being and that you deserve to be happy. Say, "I will be happy today and I look great!" or "I choose to stand tall and smile at everyone I meet today, I am worth it!" If you think that that is crazy, just try it. Do it when you are alone. After a few days, you will find that your attitude about yourself will start to change.
The best way to get over shyness is to start talking to others. If you are waiting in a grocery line, comment about a magazine article to the person in front or behind you. You may find that it is easier than you thought. Just continue to practice these things and soon you will blossom.
I know, because I used to have the same problems. Hang in there!
2006-07-21 17:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-confidence is something you have to develop within. I found that taking Karate improved my self-esteem as well as my physical well-being, but different things work for different people. One thing I recommend is putting yourself in situations that make you feel uncomfortable. If you're a performer, the first time on stage is bound to be stressful - after a hundred times it becomes less so, because you know what to expect. Most fear springs from a fear of the unknown. In other words, replace that fear with
knowledge of yourself and the situation. Best of luck.
2006-07-21 18:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend,firstly u should find d cause of ur shyness and low self esteem,like other emotions of human being,shyness is one.if one is shy then it's no abnormality,but if u feel uncomfortable,then try to interact with more people of ur known. 2ndly,if u overcome low self esteem,then keep it in ur mind, the very famous quatation,"failure is d pillar of d success."& remember, pr.abraham linkon failed for 21 times in his life but we know him as a american president, so u can aquire self esteem easily.
2006-07-21 17:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by arijit b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
low self esteem. as well as being shy is one thing dont ever think others are better than you they arent you are a good as anyone anywhere . that is low self esteem. as for being shy. you think that others are better than you well they arent in my opion hold your head up and look at the posative things in life not the sad things that many tell you about you will live a good life when you put this in your mind basicly in my opion you are as good as everyone this is fact. my opion?
2006-07-21 17:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and think the best in people. It helps to think positively. It might help to expand a little with something your comfortable with. Do things slowly, but if things dont work out the way you planned, thats ok, thats what life is like. :)
2006-07-21 17:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Achievements. Build up a record of success that you can look back on. This will give you confidence to move ahead to bigger and better things.
2006-07-21 17:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax. find something that you like to do. and share the activity with a friend that you trust. widen your circle of friends. have some partys. go dancing.
everyone has pretty much the same feeling. other people just hide it better. just dont worry about it to much. be yourself.
2006-07-21 17:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This page will help you a lot if you read it. Then take little steps practicing talking to people.
http://phifoundation.org/happiness.html
2006-07-21 17:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋