My daughter is living with a guy but she keeps telling me she is not.?

Question

She is an adult and I am not supporting her, so why is she lying about this?

Answer 1

She knows that you know the truth and still you want to hear it from her. She is not lying, but proves that she is smarter than you.

Answer 2

Maybe she is embarrassed and thinks you will disapprove. Maybe he is just a roommate but doesn't think you'll understand. Or perhaps she is telling the truth - she may not be living with him but just at his place a lot.

If I were you I'd say exactly what you stated here - that she is an adult and has the right to do what she wants, you just want to know why she would lie about living with this guy. Then tell her the reasons you think she's living with him. Be supportive not confrontational.

Answer 3

If you're not supporting her, because she's an adult, your motive is wrong, and you shouldn't care how she's livng nor with whom.
But if she denies living with a guy, it could be that either she'sb eing apprehnesive, because she's an adult. Or she's living with a different guy than you think.

Answer 4

Maybe she really isn't living with a guy and you are just having a paranoid scitzophrenic psychotic hallucination. You should probably get on some medication before you hurt some one. People with this affliction usually get off in court after they kill their daughters "imaginary" boyfriends and burn their houses down to drive the demons back to hell. Cheers!

Answer 5

Maybe she feels as though you wouldn't support the decision she's making (in living with another guy without being married). Why don't you tell her you know that she is living with the guy and to stop trying to hide it from you.

Answer 6

Are you going to cast judgement on her or have you said something in the past about your views on such things that would make her feel that you wouldn't find it unacceptable? She is holding it back due to fear or.... she may be telling the truth and have a boyfriend who sleeps over alot. Alot of young relationships don't spend much time apart, especially in the beginning. And now that she is on her own now, it's exciting to have your boyfriend over without mom and dad watching from afar.

Answer 7

She respects you and still wants your approval in what she does....and the decisions she makes. She probably thinks you won't approve of the relationship or the living arrangements, and doesn't want to disappoint you. You could remind her that she can make her own decisions and that you may not agree with every one of them......but you will not be judgemental.

Answer 8

Perhaps she thinks that you would not approve and she is unwilling to incur your disapproval. If you already know that she is living with someone, tell her that you know. There's no need to ask her. If you wish to discuss it with her, then do. However, I suggest that you not give her your opinion of her living choice unless she ask for it. She obviously already knows your thoughts on the matter; otherwise, she would not feel the need to lie to you about it.

Answer 9

I lied to my parents when I was living with my first girlfriend because they just quite simply wouldn't accept it if they found out. I would think that she probably knows that you would not approve and that she does not want to somehow hurt or lose you. I would just come out with it and ask her myself if I was in your situation, but I know that this is very delicate.... Best of luck.

Answer 10

Because daughters are not equal to their mothers. She wants to make this decision without you. Mothers are always looked upon as just that the mother not the friend. Stop trying to her friend.

Answer 11

Do you approve of her bf? Whether shes an adult or not, she still cares about what you think.