I have a 21 month old daughter who RUNS me like there is no tomorrow I have tried time outs and help for me?

Question

she is 21 months and she runs me from the tiem she wakes up till i get her to bed
i love her to death but lately she has been really hard to deal with she wont go to sleep she screams at me for no reason she will throw things if i put her in time out she thinks it is a game. i have treid her room and she hates it in their she screams like she is scared any suggestions or advice

Answer 1

Baby, you need supernanny!!!

Answer 2

I also have a 21 month old. We've found that consistency is key. We do spank him - not hard - but just to draw his attention to the matter. I know not all people are comfortable with spanking. I think different things work for different children. Sometimes we do take things from him. If he throws something, he loses it. If he screams at us, that's when he gets a little pop - we won't allow him to run the show. I teach teens - believe me - the screams only get louder and the attitudes more rude if you don't correct this now. Remember - consistency. Whichever method you use won't work if you're not consistent. Whoever suggested watching Super Nanny was right - she has some great ideas.
Oh, and recently I've been making him apologize for ugly behavior. When he apologizes then we get to hug and it makes the sweetest little moment!

Answer 3

It sounds exactly like our daughter at that age. We have a friend whose little girl is 5 times more active than our little girl was even and I think I would be absolutely insane. We tried time outs at 21 months but our daughter was really too young for them to have any effect. The thing that always seem to work was to make sure she kept to a pretty regular schedule with meals and naps and that her environment was pretty structured and organized and redirection when she went too crazy. If she was very active I would play with actively for a few minutes and then we would switch to a low action activity together, like coloring. I wold color with her for five minutes or so and then I could leave her alone to continue on her own while I did something else. Maybe we were lucky in that she also really liked doing detailed activities by herself and it was easy to redirect her to those things. We were able to keep her on a regular schedule that included a time during the day for active play. I was definately not a big fan of schedules before she was born but our daughter responded so well to having an organized schedule at that age. Children definately seem to go through periods of high activity at that age. Remember to try to take time for yourself to relax each day.

Answer 4

Catch her doing something good and praise her greatly. When she does something wrong, tell her, discipline her and NEVER back down (especially putting her to sleep and correcting her when she's really bad.) Let her run alot and play, it will tire her out. At night do a calm down activity ritual like giving a bath and reading a book. Raising a child is the hardest and most important thing you'll ever do. Somewhere in the day remember to take a moment for yourself to--you need to recharge. Good luck!

Answer 5

considering she is 8 months previous that is only a area that shes going inspite of the actuality that maximum little ones at that age commence understanding and somewhat favor Mommy more suitable then everyone..she will be able to stay via this degree. She also may be teething or not feeling properly and also you purely do not observe it in the present day. My son use to attempt this and now he's positive it replaced into only a area or somewhat some the time even as he wanted me the most we chanced on that he both had and ear ack or he replaced into teething and the teeth took somewhat lengthy to come back in.

Answer 6

First things first you said a 21 mth old is running you. Honey if you don't get a grip on it by the time she is 21 years old you will be run out and done. First of all she is a baby and crying is a normal part of growing up. It sounds to me as if she is somewhat spoiled. When a baby starts using their hands you teach them to be independent with their hands, and when they start walking you teach them that independence RIGHT! Now you need to let go of your own nerves let her cry when you know you are doing the right thing. Time outs also aren't every bodies thing try slowly taking her favorite thing away and giving it back teach her that when she doesn't listen to mommy there will be a consequence to pay.

Answer 7

not to put too fine of a point on it, but you've crossed into the reality that is the "terrible two's". she's pushing her limits (and yours) to exert herself and she knows that she can push her boundaries, it's pretty much basic self discovery.
in my opinion, if you coddle her and give in each time she screams and throws a fit you're going to show her that screaming and throwing a fit is the way for her to get what she wants. don't reward behavior you know is wrong. if nothing else works keep her in time out, she'll learn that all screaming is going to get her is some time in the corner. this is gonna seem a bit Neanderthalic i'm sure in today's world, but i spanked once, and no where near hard, and after that i never had another problem, and never had to so much as raise a finger to her. don't do the "i'm going to count to 3" thing and then not follow through with whatever you place as a consequence. if you don't follow through all you're going to show her is that you can count to 3, and be consistent with whatever your approach is

Answer 8

first of all she is almost 2, brace yourself for the tryant 2's. this little one needs a schedule and one that includes naps. about time outs she should have a designated chair or corner that is used for punishments and no other time, set a kitchen timer and explain to her that she will set until the timer goes off or until she can behave repeat this as many times as it takes, if she likes doing something special cut it out if she cannot behave, this is rough but it works and don't cave in or laugh at her she will eat you alive.

Answer 9

Find a spot for time out with nothing by it.if she gets up put her back with out saying anything..she will see you are not backing down and she will..but she is young so 1 min each year and don't force her to her room you don't want her afraid of it that's just asking for bigger problems

Answer 10

ppyI agree with most of those answers, i have just turn 3 yr. old he is the same way and just had to put my foot down with him. eventually he will grow tired of the time outs and the discipline and stop, then i try to keep him busy with me like helping do things like dusting, cleaning, dishes so on and so forth. Believe it or not they love to do things like that.

Answer 11

A little tap on the a** will do the trick. She needs to learn that you are the mother not the other way around.